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*ikki24
writes:Hello, I am looking for some advice. I have liked this guy for the past six years. We kind of grew up together, as a child I idolized him and he was the big brother I never had. But as I got older I started to develop real feelings for him. Fast forward to now, I still like him, I'm in college now and looking to get married by the time I graduate. However, he is now done with college and not around that much anymore. Two years ago he almost asked me out but I was still in high school so it wasn't really a good time. My question is, how can I get to know him better and date him when he's hardly around? I do feel the interest is mutual but he's at the point where he's working on his career so I'm sure he doesn't really think of me unless I'm right in front of him. I know it's not possible to be in love with him, but I deeply care for him and I think I really have the potential to fall in love with him and marry him. Please help me to get this very important person to be a permanent part of my life! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2013): Ok so you're not actually in love with him, but you think he feels the same? You should always trust your instincts and I think this is an occasion where you should follow your heart- and just go for it! Simple as.
Maybe he feels the same- maybe he doesn't see you in that way. If he doesn't it doesn't MEAN anything, just that the biology or chemistry isn't there, and he likely sees you as a sister. It sounds as though he is fond of you though.
Just calm that buzz inside you down and just take things as they come- marriage is a lifelong commitment and in a few years early twenties, you'll be a different person you're so young, so try not to take too much to heart :)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 June 2013):
 Next time you see him ask him out for some coffee. I wouldn't mention your marriage plans however, mainly because they are whacked.
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