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26-29,
anonymous
writes: A month ago, my History professor gave us an assignment and he showed us a really good example that we could no longer use. He dismissed class and stayed at his desk and my friend and I began to walk to another building on campus. Throughout the whole walk, my friend was complaining about his assignment and his example. I was just listening to her and distractedly commented every once in a while. Not once did we think of looking back to see if anyone was behind us. We arrived at a cross walk and began to cross to the other building and my friend and I spotted a bench. We decided to sit there and we turned towards it and our professor was like right there!! When he saw us turning he looked surprised and immediately turned the other way. My friend and I thought that he heard our conversation and we were speechless. He was far off in the distance and after getting over the initial shock, we began to laugh. The next day I saw him, I was sitting outside a class in the hall and my professor had just finished teaching his class. He saw me there and instead of going to his office or something, he sat a few chairs away from me. I felt like he heard my friend talking about his assignment and that is why he sat there, to make me feel uncomfortable. The silence in the hall made it awkward and I got up soon after and left. Two days later, when I was submitting the same assignment my friend complained about, he stood up from his desk as I was approaching. My friend told me that he didn't even look at her/ thank her for taking her paper to him. (If this helps, I got an A in the paper and my friend ended up with a B.) I don't think that really matters though because we compared them and we both concluded that mine was better.Recently, I've noticed him staring a lot at us during class. And one day my friend and I were the last students to leave the class because he was supposed to ask us about a topic we chose to write about. He sat on the table across from ours, directly in front of me, and asked my friend about her topic and then he said she could leave. She slowly began to pack her stuff and then he kind of asked me about my topic and I answered him. Then he stopped talking to me and stared at her and she slowly walked to the door. (She said he gave her the look of: Ugh. You're still here? I thought you were leaving.) He began to talk to me and things got awkward so I slowly reached for my notebook and left. I don't know if I'm to blame for this awkwardness because I can usually speak well to my professors but this time I just wasn't able to do it. My heart was beating fast and my hands felt clammy. I don't know if this is because I had a teacher in high school who I thought was my friend and he always singled me out, hitting on me in sneaky ways, and making me stay after class just to "chat" and maybe I was mentally scarred by that... including the fact that I've been self-conscious for a long time. Or maybe it was just the quiet atmosphere of the class and all that has occurred. Please help me. I need advice. I feel like my professor dislikes me or something. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the comments
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (12 March 2016):
AS time goes on.... you'll learn that the entire World does NOT revolve around you....
Good luck...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 March 2016):
Unless he ASKS you to get up and get out, don't leave the class. YOU are PAYING for him to TEACH you.
Was he miffed that he overheard a couple of students "bitch" about an assignment? Maybe, but my guess is.. HE has heard it ALL before.
And your professor don't HAVE to like you. He is obviously professional enough to not GRADE you on how he likes you. You don't HAVE to like your professor either.
And so what if he doesn't like you and your friend? As long as he doesn't "punish" you two for your out of class comments - it really doesn't matter.
Let it go, he will too soon enough. And next time you and your friend wants to harp in a teacher or assignment... wait till you are out of earshot.
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