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writes:So recently I broke up with a girl after a 14 month LDR relationship where everything seemed perfect, to the point that she was telling everyone, including her parents, that she was about to move in with me. She tells me she can't continue because she is scared, even though she thinks I might be the one, because she isn't sure, and doesn't want to move.We split, in the last month I had seen behavior changes, including escalating smoking, drinking, late hours and pot smoking. Others come to me about this, as well, and I have a conversation with the parents. Of course this makes things worse (I was prepared for that). 1 month later she gets her stuff, I get LOTS of mixed signals (telling me her dog misses me and my dog, I catch her crying, hugs me repeatedly, promises she'll see me soon, etc.) She really is losing it. She leaves and travels back home.Now, we aren't talking and haven't for a month. I know she is out with a new guy now and appears happy. All I want is to be able to be on speaking terms, is this a possibility in any way? There was a lot of nastiness prior to her coming to my house, and the friends absolutely hate me. Thanks in advance.
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reader, EpeeGuy +, writes (4 August 2009):
EpeeGuy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd if you need more information, I have a lot of details, but basically, in addition to all of the rest of this, people were sending anonymous emails to me and from what I think Ipieced together, talking in her ear on the other side (perhaps even while we were still dating), but the emails came after we split.
Also, part of the reason we are not speaking, I am sure, is because the next weekend I was in her town sending a friend off, moving to VA., and I managed to wander into a bar at 2:30 am where her roommate's entire bridal party (roommate's wedding was that weekend) happened to have ended up AFTER the reception) I had diligently worked to avoid showing up anywhere they might be. The bride herself asked me to leave, and was a bit nasty about it.
Anyway, thought maybe that might help.
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