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*inglemom24
writes:Me and the ex were together 1 year and half, we were living together and everything was great. Then I found out I was pregnant in feb 2008. Things were still fine he was super excited about the baby but as soon as our son was born in October 2008 things took a 360 degree turn for the worse. He quit his job, left me home alone, crying with a new born with me begging him to stay, while he went out and partied with his friends. As soon as i was off maturnity leave i had to go back to work to suppoprt the new baby, he never stayed home with our son while i had to work i had to get my family or his family to watch our son, while my bf did who knows what while i was at work. Things just kept getting worse (apparntly his depression and bi polar disorder was out of contorl and he wouldnt seek help) we would argue all the time about me telling him to get a job or atleast watch our son while i was gone or help around the house because i was so exhaust because i was doing everything. A few of our arugments turned violent, he punched holes in the walls, kicked in door frames, and vandilized my car. I finally had enough and couldnt bear having my son grow up in that kind of enviroment. So i have recently moved out. And as of right now he doesnt pay child support and doesnt seem to want to have anything to do with our son. He hasnt called asking how he is, or wants to see him. I dont know what to do. His name is on our childs birth certificate, but i would like him to sign his rights over and i have no idea how to go about it and i dont want it to back fire. If anyone as any advice on how to go about it, please feel free to answer! Thank You!!
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reader, singlemom24 +, writes (29 April 2010):
singlemom24 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOnce again thank you for your response, I very much apperciate it, you don't know how much it helps out! :) The only evidence I have of his violence at the moment is the damage he caused to car, but I think i could get some good evidence about his mental health issues, if I got the court to supena his medical record it would show he was diagnoised with depression and bi polar disorders and that he did no follow up to treat these problems. I don't know if I could get evidence of all the holes in wall because I no longer lives in that home and I prefer not to step foot in that house. I also have witnesses but there is a problem most of the witnesses are the exs friends and family and I'm not sure how willing they would be to testify against the ex. I think when I have more confidence I think I just need to sit down with a laywer and see what he has to say and what my chances would be about gaining sole custody!
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 Yes good point. Do you have evidence of the holes in walls and abuse towards you or witnesses to this behaviour? You would waltz through the door of sole custody if so.
Very best of luck to you I know you will be alright!
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reader, singlemom24 +, writes (28 April 2010):
singlemom24 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your response to my question and support, i dont have to get him to sign his rights over, i think it would make future life for me and my son easier. But for example if i were to get married one day and my husband wanted to adopt my son i would have to get the ex to sign over his rights, or if i ever decide to move out of the state without his concent i think he could get me on kiddnapping charges if he wanted to. I think if i did end up going to court for sole custody i would have a good case, im just nervous for it to back fire.
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (28 April 2010):
I'm not sure how you go about getting him to sign his rights off but my two cents worth to you is this: You have done the right thing. This man can be no decent sort of role model to your son and no support to you. Well done to you for standing strong on your own two feet!
What I'm wondering is do you have to get him to sign his rights over? If push came to shove surely no judge is going to grant him visitation given his past behaviour.
Could you move and leave no forwarding address? Given the stringent privacy laws nowdays it would be pretty hard for him to find you if you've vanished.
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