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writes:I am 16 and a virgin.. my girlfriend is the same age however she has had sex with one person. She said it was a mistake. We have been dating for a little over 2 months. Every thing is perfect except for every time we try to have sex I go limp. We have tried 3 times. When she gives me hand jobs or oral, I never cum or get close. We try to discuss why this is happening however we have not come up with any solid conclusions. I really would like to solve this serious issue before I become the next 40 year old virgin.
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reader, john777 +, writes (30 August 2009):
john777 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI belive its something in my head also. But I need to know what. I have the condom on and then all of a sudden its over. I am scared to try it again until I can fix the issue.
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reader, RobL  +, writes (25 August 2009):
 I'm almost 21 and I'm still a virgin. It's not something I want to tell people, but I'm not going to lie about it. Although in fairness it's hard to lose your virginity whilst in an online relationship ;D
Old Guy has it spot on, you're going too fast, just take things slow and steady. If you're in a relationship that lasts then you'll lose your virginity at some point, but it'll be when you're ready for it, rather than at a time you're rushed into it.
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reader, Spazz in love +, writes (25 August 2009):
well i agree with old guy there he has a point it does seem like your taking it way to fast because your still so very young and need to slow it down a lil cuz youre so many yrs away from being 40 so dnt worry just give it time, hey just look at me im 18 and im still a virgin so dnt worry if any one of us has to worry about being a 40 year old virgin its me lol
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reader, Spazz in love +, writes (25 August 2009):
well i agree with old guy there he has a point it does seem like your taking it way to fast because your still so very young and need to slow it down a lil cuz youre so many yrs away from being 40 so dnt worry just give it time, hey just look at me im 18 and im still a virgin so dnt worry if any one of us has to worry about being a 40 year old virgin its me lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): It's your brain telling you that you're moving too fast. Something isn't quite right in the relationship, and your subconscious is picking up on that.
Something similar happened to me when I was 17 -- she told me she loved me during our first date, and would have had sex right then and there. I knew that I certainly didn't love her, and that sex would mean a level of commitment that I was no where near ready for. It took a few months, until we were closer to the same wavelength, before things started working again. (And eventually they worked *quite* well). Just chill.
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reader, Hybrid  +, writes (24 August 2009):
Relax, man, relax. I'm betting you're putting too much thought into it and stressing about it too much.
Do you have any problem getting an erection when you masterbate? If no, you're fine, and its all psychological. If you do, however, I'd recommend you see a doctor. Either way, you're still young. Just relax, enjoy yourself when you're with your girl, and let it happen when it happens.
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