A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hey everyone. please help me! There is this guy I have known for 4 years we study together. We can never be together and he is known to be a sort of player and is not liked by many girls they think he is an arsehole! But everything has always been above board when we speak, he always messages me online and texts me and we always talk for hours about random things. He always says oh you are pretty and i like you etc etc but i take it all in jest and he is always super nice to me. Lately he has been even nicer and said i like you and i have a crush on you etc etc but again i dismiss it because we can never be together due to religious differences. But then he has suddenly said something that hurt me so much i can't explain. He said 'I dont want anything from u, you have nothing to offer sadly' I am so hurt how could he say this to me and what does he even mean? I should point out that i have been so strong for these past 5 years i have known him but recently i have felt like i have developed feelings for him maybe that is why it hurts more?I just dont understand why he would say that. I feel so pathetic.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (17 March 2011):
 Huge ouch!!!
Maybe you should have listened to your sista's, seems they had his number.
Also you told him you liked him and maybe he is not only introverted but totally inert ! Thus the provoked insult to protect his players ego. They are very fragile.
Maybe this time around your god has your best interests, because you say you can't be together because of different religions. IMO Gods got your back I'd take that before I'd accept having to bleed over one nasty human.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): Maybe he was referring to your religious differences and he's sorry that these differences mean you can't be together. Tell him straight that you were hurt by his remarks and that he should clarify what he means. If he is intentionally being mean then I would reconsider your friendship. But remember too that if he has consistently told you he's interested but you've knocked him back, then of course his feelings would be hurt just as yours are now. You both need to be open with one another.
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