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writes:My boyfriend and I are currently separated. I still love him, and want him back, but I don't know if it's really over this time, or if he just needs alone time. Should I call him everyday to let him know I'm still interested, or stop calling him, and risk losing him forever? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): There are probably no hard and fast rules on this....it sort of depends on who broke things off. If he is the one who broke up with you, then I would wait for him to call for at least three weeks, then if he doesn't call, you then may want to try and see him in person if you can, sort of stop by to say hello....but the best thing to do is to try to move on by doing things you enjoy, working out, getting busy and even going on a date with someone else if you want to do so.
You can push him away by asking him to talk about the break up before he is ready because it will give him the opportunity to just reinforce or argue the reasons he broke up with you. If you just leave it alone and give him some space, he will miss you....he really doesn't want you to be out of his life, there were just things that happened that made him feel he should break up with you....and time will help calm both of you down, give you head a chance to clear and allow you to more clearly see the problems that caused the break up and give you time to get over your angry and desperate feelings about the whole thing.
That said, there really is no formula for getting him back, but after some time it would be a good idea to allow him to tell you what he is mad about and for you to say the same things, apologize and allow those unresolved feelings and issues to at least be expressed, then healing can begin....your relationship may be broken for good, but then again it may be possible to repair it and change it for the better this time, too.....only you guys have the control and say over that.....it kind of depends on what each of you wants in your life and whether or not you think the relationship is worth it.....and you can both have different ideas about that,so time will tell.
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