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*heyla
writes:I had sex with my boyfriend and my period is now past 4 or 5 days that it not come. I think im pregnant. He's my dad's trusty friend. I am scared to tell him that I had sex because he will send him to jail.I'm 14 and he's 32.(Moderator Note: please refrain from making obvious berating comments. The girl needs help, not a hostile condemnating lesson. Thanks.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): hes 19 yrs older than you! first think to your self "why did i do that"? then be honest and tell your dad, thats what i did. i was 15 and i had it with a 24 year old.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): The man is a child molester and I am sorry that you are young and do not understand the severity of his crime.
Please tell your Father he will understand and help you make things right.
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (10 July 2007):
Hi there Sheyla,
So sorry to hear about your worries. The very first thing to do is to find out if you are pregnant for sure. You may not be, even though your period is late. Extreme worry can delay a period sometimes. Either way, you must know straight away. Take a test today.
If you are pregnant, you will need to tell your dad (or parents – you don’t mention your mum). This will be very hard for you I know, but you have to be brave and just say the words somehow. Do not worry about your boyfriend; he can take care of himself. You must think about yourself and your baby, if there is one.
If you are not pregnant, it has been a lucky escape. I would advise you to still tell your dad what happened. He would not want to be friends with this man if he knew about it. If you can’t so this, just make sure to keep away from this man in the future. I am sure that you care for him, but what he has done is very wrong and selfish, and shows that he doesn’t care for you. Men know that they shouldn’t do this kind of thing. I hope you tell him it is finished, and he leaves you alone. If he doesn’t, tell your dad.
I hope this works out OK for you sweetheart, best of luck. xxx
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reader, sophieleanne +, writes (10 July 2007):
 i know how your feeling i had the same thing happen to me i was 14 he was 24. you need to first make sure if you are pregnant or not and decide what you want to do tell one of your parents if you are pregnant you dont have to tell them who the father is just yet but you do need to sort out the pregnancy as it wont just go away . you need to think about yourself you are the one that is important, when it was happening to me i was very suprised by my mothers reaction she was disapointed with me but she stood by me and we both got through it together and that is what you need to do . please dont try to deal with it on your own your parents love you and will be there for you. x
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reader, Xeie +, writes (10 July 2007):
 This is concidered Statutory Rape and is very likly that he will go to jail if your father finds out. You should really take a pregnancy test and I do hope that you used some sort of method to protect yourself. A condom or contraception pills, something. Even so, a test would be very best for this situation. If in fact you do end up pregnant you should inform someone you really trust in your family. Something like this cannot remain hidden for long.
As a man of 32 he should be responsible enough to care for you, knowing the consequences that would rise from this sexual relationship you two had. Please, tell someone about this. Do not wait until a last resort, this is a serious case and should be treated as one. And if you are not pregnant, I suggest you keep away from this man. It could
definately ruin the relationship you and your father have. Be safe and do take care.
-Xeie
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