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writes:Me and my ex have been split up for over 3 months now. Thing's were going good we werent communicating at all. Then one day she comes up to me at the gym and asks if I will be coming in the morning's . I was, so I said no problem. Well later on that day I get a call from her asking if there was anything going on with me and this girl. She heard that I was at a bar with this girl. She talked about it for over 20 minute's , and how it's still hard. Well we started to train in the morning and everything seem's fine. We talk more and see each other more. She sometimes says certain things about our relationship in the past. She allways wants to be next to me in the gym . When we get done working out she asks me if I will be doing the treadmill next to her. Or she asks if I would like to do spin class with her. Also when I have a set or two left she will wait for me to get done before she does her cardio. People tell me this is her trying to get close to me. To feel me out and see if there is a spark in me left. That she is trying to figure out if I might take her back without saying it. She is 27 I am 24, I just dont know what to think.
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reader, laurens  +, writes (14 December 2007):
i wouldnt jump into anything.
relationships between x's are very complicated.
if she heard you were with someone else she may have just got a bit jealous. when you break up with someone altho you dont want them anymore you dont nesseserily want anyone else to have them either. its difficult watching your x move on esspecially if your not ready to do so yet.
there are many reasons she may want to spend time with you. just because she misses you doesnt mean she wants to get back together. its hard going from spending every day talking to someone to no contact.
my advice- if you want to know where you stand. tell her that your not ready to be friends, there are still feelings there and it is too hard.
by her reaction youll know where you stand. and if you do still have feelings its too early to try friendship. it just doesnt work.
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