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writes:dear cupid i am a female and i am 13 years old, people make fun of me because i have only had one boyfriend, we went out for 4 weeks and all we did was talk that was it! i don't know how to get myself out there and to gain the confidance to just make a move! could you please help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, BadderzGirl +, writes (12 October 2009):
Hey there sweetie! I'm sixteen and don't worry, before the guy I'm currently going out with, I only had one bf which was when i was 13! it lasted a couple of months, and we didn't do anything else other than kiss.you shouldn't feel so self concsious about the number of bf's you've had! by the sounds of it, your friends have had loads, but remember golden rule number 1 about guys:They will sleep/kiss/do stuff with sluts, but they don't actually like them.Stay yourself and wait for the right guy; don't just go out with someone for the sake of going out! its the completely wrong thing to do, and you'll just regret it later on.When you find a guy who likes you for you, it'll be so much better and just feel RIGHT.That's wot happened with me, and when all my friends relationships are currently sitting around their ankles, I sitting happy where I am!Gd luck with everything!xx
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (12 October 2009):
 OMG, you're 13, boys should be one of the last things on your mind! Ok, maybe not the last thing, I was around your age when i started really wanted a boyfriend...
Well, I'm 17 now, and I'm with my first boyfriend, who I've been with for 9 months...
Out of my whole group of friends, I was the last one to ever get a boyfriend (I'm the only one who's only had 1 boyfriend, which is the guy i'm with now... my friends all have had at least 5) and the last one to lose her virginty... Now, one of my friends is currently pregnant, by a guy who split up with her as soon as he found out and wanted her to have an abortion... another friend caught chlamydia because she was sleeping around.... Not one of my friends has had a PROPER relationship so far..
What I'm trying to say, take your time.. You're young, you have your whole life to find someone who is right for you. I mean, what's the rush, right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2009): Hi
First of all, let them laugh their heads off. While you study and learn and excel in your life, these 'people' will chase after 'boys' and get either pregnant or ditched or any STD! Then it will be your turn to laugh. I'm not trying to be judgmental (okay, I am) but this recent obsession with boys and sex has plain driven me mad! Your teens aren't about exploring your sexuality, they are about exploring yourself, character-building and connecting with the world and her issues! So, please let them laugh (I think that they are jealous inside).
Now, about attracting more boys... well, if the numbers are all you want then a push-up bra and a short skirt will do the trick! But, I don't think that that is your idea of a relationship. Do you know how good you had it with your first boyfriend? A teenage guy who loved and appreciated you for You! Do you see how great you had it?
I am assuming that you are a healthy wholesome girl who has other interests like sports, arts or music or gardening... you know, someone who has a little depth, intelligence and is fun, right? (tell me that you are all the above!)
Now, as for attracting the guy, don't worry, many teens feel insecure and it is quite normal. But of course, you do need some attention from the opposite sex, it adds that extra strut to your normal walk!
Well, take up interests and hobbies. The best way to seem interesting is to actually be interesting. Like, learn your skills, expand your knowledge. Get in touch with the world and her affairs. That will make you better than most in your class and it will also help you evolve.
Then, go out and join a club. Volunteer groups and other such places where people come together to indulge and discuss their mutual interests are a wonderful place to meet new people and as it will be something of your interest, so naturally you will feel more comfortable talking about it.
And, then I need you to look in the mirror and really see yourself. Then I want you to smile at the reflection, and say that you are a wonderful person. Then I want you to wave at your reflection and say 'Hi'. Every morning, without fail.
And then if you see any cute guy around, I want you to do the same that is flash him that smile and say "Hi". Okay?
I wish you the very best.
Love
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