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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I have a problem of loving certain people too much (or should i say im blessed) but soon or later get hurt. Usually people i consider my close friends, guys that could be my potential boyfriend, some elderly people who inspire me or even my family members but in the end i get hurt. I seem to expect the unexpected from them and i dont know how to control how i feel. I appear as a very sweet girl, sometimes shy but likes to laugh though sensitive. Last time i told my potential boyfriend that i love him and it went south. I didnt know what to do but ended up with a heart break anyway. The other time i was in a relationship with a guy who couldnt keep his promises and was never punctual. I tried to talk to him about it to try to make him change because i loved him so much but he never changed so we broke up; i was hurt. A few weeks ago a certain lady asked a girl i used to hang around with and i thought was my friend, if i was her friend and she replied "no im just hanging with her". Today i asked someone else if she could come with me to the shop where i usually went with her even when i was not in the mood just to make her happy and she refused to come with me without a reason. So i dont know what to do now. How can i control my feelings to avoid problems in future? I find it hard sometimes to stand up for myself when people are being rude or insultive to me. Please Help.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (16 July 2014):
It sounds like your problems aren't only about other people. I think you'd really benefit from counseling services, that's the only advice I can give you. You have a victim mentality, and until that changes you'll always have these problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2014): Hi..I have a problem like you...when I am nice to others,some people are very rude to me,,I hurt manytimes.but what I realized is that's their innate nature,even no fault of yours...keep going.,don't waste time on nasty people
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