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writes: Hello everybodyI am 36 and my boyfriend is 51,i didn think anythink of the age gap until somebody at work told me he is too old for me, and to make it worse he told my boyfriend of my past problems with unsuitable boyfriends that i would rather not tell my present boyfriend about, or should i tell him everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): Question: Why the heck would you care what someone else thinks? Sure, family or friends might be one thing, but people you work with? Who cares!!! If this man makes you happy, tell anyone who bothers you about it to mind their own business. You're the one in the relationship, not them!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2006): Firstly, your relationship with this older man is no one's business. You are 36..he is 51. Both of you are free thinking, mature adults who have life experiences and maturity. Sometimes when two people connect, share common interests, respect each other, the years melt away. So don't listen to what others say. That will only prove to make you have self-doubts..do not do that to yourself or your love relationship. Secondly, your friend from work has no right to interfere in your relationship, by telling your bf about your past. He's gossiping, he's interfering and he's being very mean spirited. I am guessing here, but I'm wondering if your friend from work, had designs on you, at one time?? But the main thing is, this work friend is making a purposeful attempt to degrade you, which could be possibly motivated by jealousy and his own hurt feelings. Genuine friends do not do that. As for your past, you can choose to tell your bf about it but it's not necessary. That was your life before him and unless there is 'something from your past, that could detrimentally affect this new bf's life'...your past is YOUR business. I think it's crucial that couples use forward thinking when beginning a new relationship..not dredging up things that can never be changed. Only tell your bf what you feel he should know and when you feel comfortable, doing it. Have a firm chat with your work buddy and tell him, you will not tolerate his slanderous behavior. Tell him to back off.
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