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Penis Surgery has left me unable to connect fully with my girlfriend, How can I make it pleasurable again?

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Question - (19 August 2012) 1 Answers - (Newest, 21 August 2012)
A male United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hi there,

I am a 28 year old male and about 5 years ago I had a small cyst removed from the underside of my foreskin. However I was naive to the consequences and was unaware of how much skin they would remove and the whole underside of my foreskin is now numb to the touch and infact even hurts (like a burning feeling) when the scarring is touched or if the skin is pulled or during intercourse. I have had physcological issues with my decision and wish I had never had the procedure for such a small cyst and I am really struggling mentally with the lack of sensation in comparison to how it used to be. I feel I cannot get any real satisfaction sexually and feel a lack of connection with my partner (new partner – I have not long been fully sexually active and this is what has brought my concerns back. I also feel that it causes me to have erection problems and I cannot tell how erect I am without feeling or looking (this may be psychological too due to my worries).

I am desperate to get the feeling back – I have the frenulum still there but just no sensation, I remember it being really sensitive and pleasurable. I wanted to know if there are any procedures to restore the same intense feeling I had before as I cannot stop thinking about it and the worry is completely absorbing and eating me alive. I'd try anything!

Thank you very much for your time,

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2012):

hey i may not have the answar to your medical solution but if what is bothering you is the fact the you may think your not pleasuring your partner then all i can say is that you should explore new types of things if you and your partner are both comfortable with each other then why not. think of it this why even people who have on feeling from their waist down have an active sex live, so dont worry. just have fun and try new things.

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