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writes:Please help me!So, I have liked this boy for over a year and half. About 6th months ago I admitted it... and now we have become closer and relli good friends. My friend said that he has changed around me recently. So we were all on the bus... and i asked him if he fancied this other girl and the my friend interrupted and said no he fancies you. Then he said no i dont fancy her and your my lover.I didn't say anything and was a bit embarrassed.Im having joint neon rave birthday with my friend next week and I cant wait.. the only thing that is bugging me is that he is a very popular boy and im scared all the girls will be around him. He has said to me that he is going to dance with me and is excited about dancing with me.Im a confident person but when it comes to asking boys out... nope!I do admit that Im not to unpopular and everyone comes to me for advice. I have liked him for ages and If nothing happens between me and him on friday night Im going to be upset.Please help me! Reply to this Question
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reader, Who  +, writes (28 May 2009):
 "Then he said no i dont fancy her and your my lover....He has said to me that he is going to dance with me and is excited about dancing with me.
If he says he likes you and is excited to dance with you, believe him. If he knows what he wants and is telling you the truth you two will have to trust each other in order for anything to develop.
If he does not know what he wants, if he is lying to you or if he changes his mind, it will hurt that you believed and trusted him. That is the risk you take in the romance business. This boy you are talking about may or may not be the one to trust, but eventually you are going to have trust a boy if you are going to have a boy friend.
"im scared all the girls will be around him....If nothing happens between me and him on friday night Im going to be upset."
Alright, you get upset. Getting upset, liking a boy who does not like you back as much as you do, having other girls around the boy you like are also all part of romance. Get used to it. And you are likely going to a few boys over the years you like as much as this boy before you find the guy that is really right for you.
And there is no reason why a few boys can’t be around you and dance with you. You may like this one guy best now, but you are young and don’t completely know what you like.
(Note I am talking about dating and dancing and NOTHING ELSE. Years from now, after you have had a few boyfriends and a few broken hearts you will know more about men, which ones to trust and when. After that, and only after that, you will be ready for something else.)
Relax and have fun at your birthday party/dance. There is no reason why everything will not work out the best for you, including dancing a lot with you best boy.`
BTW, a joint neon rave, is that anything like a sock hop? (You can rock it you can roll it you can reel it you can bop it at the hop hop hop…)
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