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writes:Hi everyone ,I'm in a long distance relationship, we see each other every 2 weeks or more .The problem is his mother, she belittles me quiet a lot, she talks to me as a child and i am finding it really annoying now . I told him how I felt in a email because I didn't want to ruin our time together. Now I feel like I don't want to spend as much time together.He lives with his mum because she has health problems ,so it makes it harder still .I feel angry at times and i'm glad to get home. I can't tell her how I feel because she is always right and disregards what I think .What can I do ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2013): You need to show her that she has no power over you because she sounds like a bully. And your boyfriend should also be standing up for you because he has some responsibility, and you need to show her that you are united because that will definitely take away her power over. And you really need to push him too, and if he won't stand up for you then he's not really worth it. And don't let the things that she does slip because she sounds like a right witch, and with people like that if they think that they can then they will.Best of luck.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (23 January 2013):
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Can he not make arrangements for her to go into respite or another relative to care for her,so he can come to you? Why do you have to go there?
I don't see why you should have to put up with her,she may need caring but it doesn't mean she can be nasty to you.He either sticks up for you,stands up to his mum, or you move on.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (22 January 2013):
 There's a heap of difference between a guy who happens to be taking care of his momma and a momma's boy. You need to find out which he is and then you'll know whether you will ever be able to win this battle. Talk to him face to face about all of this but always bearing in mind that actions speak much louder than words.
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reader, Paula4u +, writes (22 January 2013):
 You are in a bad place, sorry to say. Unless he understands and stands up for you. If you cant get on with family they will also never support you when you need them. Sorry..
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 January 2013):
 When you emailed him what did he say?
when she attacks you what does he do?
can he not come visit you?
"she is always right and disregards what I think"
if your partner does not have your back I'd end the relationship.... how a man treats his mom is much how he will treat his wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2013): It sounds as if your partner's mother holds all the cards, due to her illness her son lives with her - and she treats you, his partner, in a very shabby manner. It is no wonder you are not happy with the situation. Living with his mother is admirable for a short term illness, but if this is a semi-permanent state it means he is putting his own life on hold. I suspect she might be quite happy to have you off the scene altogether. As your partner has allowed this situation to develop I suspect he is in his mother's pocket. He has to man-up and frankly, support you. Otherwise he and his mother will have a future together and he won't have a girl-friend. Not many men would cherish that fate.
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