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writes:i've been with my partner for 4 years now.....we meet when both our marriages were ending, and we had a affair. He is the man of my dreams.....my solo mate, the one that make me smile from ear to ear.I love him to bits, he is my whole world and my life is 1000 times better now he is in it.Things have been going good until up to now. My parnters littke girl ( well she is 15 )has said that she does not want anything to do with him anymore. he has take it really bad, as i would. He still gets to see his son, but i can see just how much it is hurting him. She don't want to see anymore because of me.........she told him that i took him away from her,and that if he was with anyone else it would be fine.We have from a ski holiday together for my birthday, and i though we had, had awesome time.......but i was wrong.....he is now blaming me for him not seeing his little girl. And for the last two day/nights he has been shouting at me and calling me name, but at the sometime saying i love you.I now don't know want to do......do i leave him, so he can have his little girl back in his life or do stay
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): Passion and excitement fades away with time.
Every marriage go through this.
Tough times are coming now, are you strong enough...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2011): His daughter is a typical teenager, but she also probably sees you as the woman who broke up her dad and mom. She could probably be helped by counseling, and a talking-to from her dad to set the record straight, that the marriage was already ending when you came into the picture.
What is a bigger concern than his daughter's issue is that he is taking out his frustration on you. He's verbally abusing you, and in the same breath telling you he loves you. He needs to decide which is which. You need to have a heart-to-heart with him about the situation. Tell him it makes you feel terrible that his daughter feels that way about you, but it makes you feel even worse when he insults you and blames you for how is daughter feels. At 15, she is going to be emotional. Her parents need to help her deal with her anger, which most likely starting when her mom and dad got divorced. It's easy for three-year-olds to handle a divorce; not so much for a tween or teen. If he still doesn't understand how you feel or continues blaming you, then take a step back from the situation. Take some time out for yourself or a ladies weekend with your friends and distance yourself from him. Either he'll realize he only wants his daughter, or that he loves you. A 15-year-old girl can't dictate her father's love life. It's hard because I'm sure his kids come first, but she doesn't have a valid reason.
Best of luck with the talk!
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