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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2012): To be honest he is a bit suspect. Dump him. there are plenty of sraight and decent men out there.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (12 October 2012):
 Well let's be honest here. He's going to be poorly matched to any woman! Hand jobs and anal: perhaps he'd be better off with another man?
As for the why he's like this: it could be porn related. After using a lot of porn some men can really only ejaculate via a very firm and vigorous hand-job: the grip of a vagina is no longer enough. Likewise anal is normalised in porn and the connection between guys watching porn then being more focussed on anal sex is well documented.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2012): Do you live together? You haven't posted much to go on... I feel your upset over the fact he only wants anal and not penetrative sex? As rightly you should be..Is he freighted you may fall pregnant? Or it could be just the sex he likesIt's time no matter what., for you both to sit down and discuss this.. Your adults and he needs to hear how you feel. If this fails and he doesn't take how you feel into account, then leave him..It may give him the eye opener he needs to either make changes or two for you's both to move on..Wishing you well.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 October 2012):
 Seems to me that he really doesn't care that you aren't into enjoying sex, so he "might" as well get his satisfaction - as in hand-job and anal....
I think you two are really poorly matched sexually.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (11 October 2012):
 He clearly doesn't listen to you or your needs, why are you still with him? If he won't listen when you tell him you don't want anal sex and doesn't listen when you tell him you don't even like sex, I don't think there's much more to talk about.
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reader, Yos +, writes (11 October 2012):
He's clearly very into you have pleasure too. Get what you want out of the relationship or get out I would suggest.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 October 2012):
 I'd think you guys are not well matched sexually.
It has to be very annoying to constantly be badgered about anal sex even after you say NO over and over.
what is your question for us?
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