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writes:Me and my partner have been together for 7 years and we have 2 young children together we are from diffarent places hes from england and i from scotland, we are both living in scotland with our kids, thing is for the past couple of months weve not been getting on but weve been together for along time so i thought this would pass and just before new year we had an arguement we both think the other person has an attitude problem and were arguing, he told me i was just like my dad which hurt very much (had bad upbringing with dad) andway in the heat of the moment i told him to leave and go back to england couple of day went past and he left on new years eve he said when he walked out the door hel b back in a week, wev bn bickering over txt and messages we said a few nasty things to each other and now i feel as though he doesnt want this anymore, he wont aswer my calls txt or mail, iv even sent him a letter sayin we can get thru this and that 7 year is too long to just throw away and that we could make a fresh start, we have 2 kids and i dont want them going without a dad, i do love him. So much it hurst cant stop crying cant eat or sleep and cant focus on my children iv bean txting him constantly to talk to me and telling him i love him and dont want us to end! I haunestly cant let him go hes the love of my life and i said to him im sorry for bein a bitch and wasnt aware of my attitude but i said sorry and all he says is whats the point it will all just happen again! I dunno what else to do to get my man back can some one pkease give me some advice he wont speak to ma at all and its killing me, think im having a breakdown over this :( pkease help its only been a week so far! :( thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo none of the arguements were ever serious just bickering, he thinks i have an attitude toward him which i didnt realise i had and held my hands up and apoligised for and said i will change and try my best, we have never lied to each other about anythin never had to! I trust him with my heart, think he is missing england and his friends etc, he has 3 other children in scotland a bit older than the 2 we have together, iv been pleading with him to come back but he say he cant see things changing! Txt me sayin he feels like a bird trapped in a cage when hes in england and feels like hes been let out of his cage when hes in england, i just cant give up on him, havent really slept cant eat and dont want to go out our 2 kids are missing him, what can i say to make him come home without begging x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): How serious were the arguments? Was it the same argument repeating? This is difficult to answer without background. If the arguments were not related to cheating or lying then there is still a chance he could come round. Like say, there is little background to go off here.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (7 January 2012):
 I would go and have a bit of therapy for yourself. Talking about things with someone helps a lot to sort things out in your head.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 January 2012):
 You said it yourself it has only been a week, the more you call and text him the further you are going to push him away. He needs some space right now to clear his head, all the arguing has got to him and he needs time to think now and you need to give him this time. So stop contacting him. Give yourself some time to think and just allow him some space. Yes 7 years is a long time, and all relationships go through bad patches where couples are at each others throats. You might not think this but the both of you badly need some space apart. So just concentrate on your children and give it some time or else you will drive him away. Just concentrate on your lovely children and keep going for there sake. Think about ways you can both improve the relationship, give it a few weeks and maybe contact him and ask him would he be willing to take couples therapy or else work things out.
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