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writes:hi i`m in a right state here,please,please help. i have been with my partner for 12 years. we have 2 children and enjoy being a family. we do have a healthy sex life and i love him with all my heart. on sunday he showed me some pics he`d taken on his phone,when i started to scroll through he snatched his phone of me !! so, i`m thinking whats he hiding ?? so next day i had a little look and found about 8 naked pictures of models!!!!!!!! i told him what i had seen and he assured me that he loves me . but they were so perfect and they had brown hair and i have blond !! i no i have wobbly bits and streach marks....how am i suppose to feel now when we have sex. i`l be thinking he`s fantersizing about these girls. i feel realy let down,i cant even look at him. has he been pleasing himself while looking at these pics ???? how long befor pics arnt enough??? is he going to cheat on me ???? what should i do ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2011): i agree with THE BOY. Try to use things like role play and send naughty pics of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): thankyou for your kind words all of you,i do feel a little better. its good to know that you guys dont think theres anything wrong in this,its good to get a males perspective.thankyou. and its good to know i`m not the onlyone going through this type of thing, thankyou Ne'cee. XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): I don't think this indicates a problem either. Just because he admires the models' beauty does not mean he doesn't admire yours. I overhear too many women worrying about being "perfect"...whatever that is. In my opinion a far bigger part of a woman being sexy or desireable is her attitude, rather than just looks. The pictures are just pictures. You are a real woman. Go have fun with the guy and quit worrying.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (23 March 2011):
 Women FREQUENTLY fantasize about celebrities or even literary characters. It doesn't mean cheating is in the cards. It's just a mental exercise, some dirty thoughts, maybe something taboo or different, but those pics are pretty harmless. Men don't usually fixate on a porn model as anything but a body, a representation of sex not a particular person they want to have sex with. If he had nude pics of someone he actually knows, I'd worry. But random models are just him blowing off steam. You say he loves you, has an active sex life with you, and hasn't cheated in 12 years and counting. Trust him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): 1) He may not have bought/downloaded these pics. A mate may have sent them for a wind up.
2) I dont think a affair is on the cards. Maybe he is pleasing himself to the girls to avoid an affair
3) Maybe he like that sort of thing. Maybe send him a few naughty pics on your phone.
4) Spruce up your sex life. Try new things, be adventures
Hope I Helped.
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reader, Ne'cee +, writes (23 March 2011):
 I completely understand how you feel. My bf watches porn. It used to bother me but after 7 years of being together (sometimes it bothers me if hes not taking care of me) He explained to me that men like variety even if they cant have it. He also explains that it keeps him from wondering. I dont have the perfect body, far from it, but neither do they. Its airbrush and photoshop. If he saw those women on the street he'd probably wouldnt even recognize them. I used to feel the same way as you, but as long as your sex life isnt being neglected then he's still attracted to you. Enjoy him
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