A
male
age
41-50,
*arshy
writes:ok me and partner of 8 years have recently seperated we have 2 wonderful children age 4 and 2 she says she only loves me as a friend and has had another male friend for what i believe to be last few months.i decided to move out and give her time and space and she nearly had nervous breakdown (suicide thoughts , leaving kids with me, cannot cope etc) she suffering with depression very badly and i doing my best to get her into routines and be supportive even if its almost killing me inside she has let me read her diary and it has quite a bit about me in it but not other guy.she has asked me to a concert next weekend and i have said i would go with her am i doing the right thing should i leave her to get on with her life without me or should i stick around i am at a loss as to what to do any more i do love her and want to get her through her depression but part of me feels i may end up doing a favour for another man ( she hasnt told him about her depression) help please Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): If you want to be supportive of her and help her get better, it would be a good idea to hang out with her at this concert. She knows you and she will be able to have fun. And not feel pressured to do anything a stranger would want her to. At the same time it would be helpful if she sees other guys as well. So if she is really seeing this other guy then that is good.
Maybe she has not told him about the depression because she does not want to burden him with that, but it is always a good idea to be honest about serious problems first hand so try to get her to tell him this. She is prolly in fear that she loses this friend but at the same time it is not fair to the guy.
If her depression runs very deeply you should take her to professional help. I think this is much more effective.
Good Luck ^^
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