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*eighleySky
writes:Im in love with my boyfriend of 8 months, hes gorgeous, smart, funny, polite, he doesn't do drugs, hes never been in trouble with the police and yet even after all this hes still not good enough for my mum and step dad. He isn't allowed to my house because my step dad doesnt want him here. He's met my real dad and they get along great and hes also met my favorite brother and they seem to get along great but i live with my mum and step dad and they hate him for no reason, he's only ever been polite to them and still they refuse to accept him. Ive had arguments with my mum over it and ive told her that he is my one but she just wont accept him and it hurts me so much.For most of my life ive lived with my dad and now that i live with my mum i just want her approval of everything and it kills me not to have her approval, she says she likes him and that its just my step dad. What can i do and why is she taking my step dads side over mine?
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (20 May 2010):
KeighleySky is verified as being by the original poster of the question He is great, and i hope with time she will accept him because i do beleive he is my one.
Thanks :) x
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 May 2010):
 Sounds like you have a great guy though! Too bad your mom can't see it the same way, but I think thats her loss for being so judgemental.
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (19 May 2010):
KeighleySky is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help :) and ive asked her she says its because he reminds her of a gay guy???????! i mean he isn't really masculine to her because hes polite and likes t be clean. But when were around my friends he doesn't have to be so polite nad they see how manly he actually is. I guess ill just have to put up with it until i move out for uni....
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 May 2010):
 Your cannot blame your mom because she knows where her bread is buttered. She would rather sacrifice you than to be on his bad side .
There is not much you can do about the situation. You need to make peace with your mom and step dad and compromise.
The issue is with your step dad. His perception of things are different .
Maybe, when you are older a bit , his perceptions may change.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (19 May 2010):
Blah. Parents. She's picking the wrong side here if you ask me, she should be supportive of you and not just side with the step-dad when there's no reason for them not to like your boyfriend. Your step-dad has an issue, and for whatever reasons your mom backs him up. I guess it's easier for her to have you mad at her than have him (step dad) mad at her.
You can either rebell or drop the issue. Rebelling will mean lots of more fights, yelling and screamining, moving out, drama. Dropping it is easier. Try not to care so much, if your mom and step dad can't be bothered then let them be and enjoy your boyfriend at his house, at your dads place, and everywhere else in the world. They aren't banning you from seeing him, they just dont want to have anything to do with him.
I still think you can ask your mother for a proper reason for why she wont accept your boyfriend.
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