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writes:in this period of time in my life, i have a really big problem!! im 19 years old, and my boyfriend is 25 years old, we have started this relationship before 3 years ago, and we are still madly in love with each other!!the problem is that my parents doesn't approve my relationship, and my brother too. the only reason for these is that according to them he doesn't deserve me, and they always mention me the fact that i'm studying medicine and he hasn't finished the university yet, although he works and he is a great person!! they say that i deserve one that has my qualities and to have many things in common with each other. every day i "fight" with my family, i am repeating every day to them that we love each other, and the end of every day finds me crying!!! i don't know what to do, as these thing are even more complicated than what i have wrote here!! please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmaybe you're right!! thanks!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): You are gonna have to offer them an ultimatum. Either accept him or at least agree to stop being arseholes to and about him.Or they lose you. Simple as that.Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is stand up to friends and family when you think they are wrong, rather than let it slide because they are family.This is what it means to be an adult. Knowing when you take your family;s advice and when not to.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot for these advices, but i want to say that these are even more complecated, and belive me, there are so many things! he fact is that they know him by the gossips that the others say about him. my parents are denying all the time to give him a chance!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): Good advice Cerberus Raphael. At the end of the day it is your decision, they should not be fighting you so much about it.
Don't they realise anyways that you are an adult and can make your own decision? You are not a child that needs them telling you what to do.
If they do not like him and wont give him a chance even if they have met him, let it go and try to not let it upset you (I know how hard this is but it your only way to keep sane and not hate your family). Try to not push him in their faces, as in don't talk to much about him or something and keep it to yourself, if they want to know about him then you tell them they need to show you more respect. Go out with him when they act rude and cause fights, try to not show them you are getting upset, show that you are making adult decisions by acting mature.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (1 October 2010):
 It is not so complicated. Your family should respect your choices. They are not the ones dating him, you are and so only you can decide whether or not he deserves you. If he treats you well and if you are happy with him, your family need not intervene for there is nothing for them to do or say. Has he met your family? Have they given him a chance? Perhaps you should invite him over and ask that your family at least try to see him for who he is and not what he was forced to live.
I hope that helps.
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