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writes:Hey, sorry if this is really long and i'll stay to the point. Basically i think i have social anxiety, it's pretty ovbious but i havent been offically diagnosed with it. I am 14 years old and about 7 months back i suffered an extreme mental breakdown and ended up in hospital for different reasons, i went to an adolescents help clinic who at the time had rated me as critical condition but after about 2 weeks they said that there was nothing wrong with me, which wasn't true. I was extremely depressed i was so depressed that at one time i stayed in my room for about 2 or 3 weeks all night and all day laying there crying, and i couldnt rememeber much of it. The people refused to help despite me explaining to them i had some sort of severe anxiety, as i can't talk to people my age i felt extremely weird, sick and very light headed when i went outside. I had to leave school because i couldnt handle that enviroment and if i saw any sort of big group id turn round and go home. Since then i has slowly started to sort myself out the depression is almost gone, my sleeping disorder is a work in progress, and i am starting to do better in my education. The one thing that i can't seem to get over is the anxiety, in some ways it has got better but very slightly i still spend huge amounts of time in doors and because of that i am very pale. The sickness feeling has gone away but still when i go out i avoid big groups and lose all confidence. I feel like im trapped in some sort of void, i can't socialize or be who i want to be, i want some more friends as i only have one but i fail to be myself and put on an almost cover up act, to be someone else. I can't deal with my emotions very well and have a very hard time telling people things, i am suspicious of everyone and am never sure whether they are being generally nice of sarcastic im constantly paranoid, and sometimes it causes me not to sleep all night. I worry about my future constantly i feel hopeless sometimes and trapped as if i can't be myself all sorts of weird thoughts go through my head. I can't take medication as because the help clinic wouldnt help me it cannot be prescribed to me without their authorization and i discharged myself because they made me feel worse. Please are the any suggestionns or anything i can do to help myself ?
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (3 August 2011):
xTheAlmightyDuckx is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thankyou very much for your comment. First of all i will not be going back to the help center. Even tho it might sound stupid they put me and my family through more stress than good. They said that i was just a disobendent child who was refuseing to go to school, but none of them acutally asked me WHY i wasnt going to go back to school. We are currently making an offical complaint about them as we are disgusted with the way we have been treated and we are not the only ones.
So far i have been getting better by myself which has been very tricky, especially as there is no one to reasure you that your doing the right thing but i do feel better in myself and have made alot of improvements, so i am getting there.
We have been back to my doctor but he has told us they are the only help service avaliable in this area as i live in a small town so i will have to tackler this on my own as therapy is not an option.
I understand what you say about the root of the problem, i ended up this way because of low- self esteem loss of family, friends and overall rejection from day to day life. But there is just one block in my head which i don't seem to be able to understand nor untangle, i don't know if it is a repressed memory of something but i can't get to the bottom of it but i am sure i will manage to.
As for exerciseing i totally agree with you, i may well be getting a bike soon so i can go out and not feel like i have to stop and go early in the mornings so there is no one there, i am acutally now on a diet as i want to lose a bit of wait to improve self esteem and overall health.
Thank you so much for your comment xx
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (3 August 2011):
 you should not have discharged yourself. go back to your doctor and get re-referred to the unit if possible. stay with them until you do not need them anymore.
to combat depression get exercise, just something enjoyable for half an hour a day, if you don't want to go out where people are try dancing around like mad in the house for a bit each day to your favourite music or get an exercise DVD, yoga is a nice one to try, walking is good too, or get a skipping rope or hula hoop or ball, anything in your back garden would be good to get you outdoors (more sunlight helps instead of being stuck indoors)exercise has been proven to improve mood as it gets your endorphins (natural happy chemicals going)
what you eat also plays a big part - avoid junk food except for occasional treats, avoid sugary and carb-laden foods, they give your bloods sugars silly highs and lows and this will disprupt your mood and energy levels. good foods to eat which will help stimulate your serotonin levels are ones that are high in the enzyme 'tryptophan' - examples of these foods are poultry, fish, dairy, nuts.
drink at least 2 litres of water a day, if you don't like plain water add juice to it to flavour, avoid soda and sugar-filled drinks. avoid caffeine, especially in the evening.
get to the bottom of WHY you feel like you do. i think problems and worrys are like a tree. the grow from a root, the longer you let it grow the bigger it gets. get back down to the root and dig it out, if you are to have any hope of getting rid of the problem for ever, tackle the root. if you find this too difficult to do this on your own, therapy can help. cognitive behavioural therapy might be a good one for you, ask your doctor. it will help you address the 'belief system' that you seem to have established which is causing you so much anguish. helps you get to the root of why you feel the way you feel
antidepressants can help some people but don't make the mistake of just relying on them to fix everything, you have to do some of it too and it probably won't be easy but just stick with it. please try to follow the advice i have given you and feel free to let me know how you are doing
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