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writes:I know this is a somewhat odd question, but here goes: I'm in a long distance relationship and it's all going great. We send emails to one another every day, we send text messages by the dozen and we talk on the phone every single day. Now that last thing is a bit of a problem. Since we're constantly in touch, there really isn't much to say on the phone when he calls. I sometimes catch myself wondering what to say. Talking every day becomes a bit of a chore when we're constantly in touch through text messages and emails anyway. Is there a way I could tell my boyfriend to call less frequently without sounding rude? I really DO love him but I think we're on an overdose of contact.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (7 March 2012):
 Hmm, it is a bit odd that you both cannot "talk" on the phone also. Normally from what i know couples with chemistry can go on talking forever.
I personally think (yeah emails and msgs are great) but physical talking (hearing each others voices) is an integral part too.
I would suggest this if I was you;
cut the messaging down to a minimum and then when he calls you ... talk about your day... this way you build more of a rapport, a physical voice rapport communication,
then just flat words on a screen, the voice is very important, i feel... let your voice be heard!
Goodluck whatever you decide!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 March 2012):
 what we did when we were at that stage was we had at minimum two phone calls per day
first I would (at his request) call him to wish him a good morning and make sure he was awake... this took 2-4 minutes each day we were apart
the second mandatory phone call was my "bedtime tuck in call" and that could take anywhere from 5 minutes to over an hour depending on what else had gone on that day.
we often emailed but rarely texted.
just tell him that you want to hear his voice last thing before you go to sleep and limit it to "good night, miss you etc talk to you tomorrow"
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