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writes:I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or I should be worried. When it comes to sex with my long-distance boyfriend, he's always been really simple/traditional/I'm not sure what to call it. Foreplay isn't much of a factor, barely any kissing, and we always stick to two positions: good ol' missionary and me on top.Anyway, we see each other every couple weeks and the first time we're together, the sex is always the best but still, nothing different in technique. Yesterday when I went to see him, it was as if I was having sex with a completely different person. He paid a lot of attention to my breasts, which he's NEVER done before, and he also tried some new positions. I don't want to make it sound like I'm complaining, because I was loving it! But I still wonder where the change came from. Because my ex cheated on me, I end up asking myself "what girl did he get this from??" Am I overreacting?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 October 2011):
 Wait a bit more before you jump the gun. This could have been a one time off. Or maybe he talked to some friends and learned something new and wanted to test it out.
See what happens next time you have sex, then maybe you should ask him about his changes in the bedroom. However you have nothing to base an assumption on yet, so do not go near suggesting cheating. Just have an open communication with him, tell him you love the new moves in the bedroom and are curious to where he got the idea.
If he just heard it from some friends, or even watched it on porn, he might be too embarrassed to tell you, so do not worry if he doesn't want to be open about it.
If you suspect cheating you need a lot more to go on, so far his actions do not suggest cheating.
And if you want to up the game in the bedroom you should start to take charge more instead of waiting for him to get to it.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (11 October 2011):
 It could be porn, it could be the internet, as Marie says.
Now, if he calls out another woman's name while he's having sex with you, *then* be nervous.
However, him acting 100% different in bed would cause me to take pause as well, but not enough for me to get afraid and suspicious.
Watch for other signs such as a break from his pattern or a fundamental change in attitude towards you, notably a cooling of desire. Otherwise, just enjoy his "honing his craft".
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