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male
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Ok, so here's my problem. I'm a guy and the part of Ireland that I'm from, there's a whole lot of pressure about kissing someone or as they call it here 'meeting' someone where you baiscally go out and snog someone then the two people decide whether they want to go stands or steady.I must admit I hate the whole 'system' because I think its kind of slutty. I have never been kissed and haven't talked to a girl my age in about three years because I go to an all boys school.My mum is overprotective and because of this, whilst all my friends ( including girls who I was friends with) started to leave the estate and go other places ( this was about four years ago ) I had to stay in the estate or the house. Soon I was completely cut off from all my friends who were girls. And now I don't have the confidence to approach any girls and talk to them in an attempt to make new friends.I feel like I'll never have a friend who is a girl, and at this stage that is all I want. I don't care about not being kissed, just as long as I have my friends. My social life is non-existent and I don't even know how to talk to girls when I get a chance to.Also, the girls here are very confident in themselves and I don't think I could ever happen across one that would understand my situation. I have plenty of Female Facebook Friends who I knew at one time but I don't know how to talk anyone.Can someone please help me? Thank you to anyone who answers :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2012): I am the person who asked this.
Both my parents don't mind me going to a particular place with some of my friends. They can then leave me off and pick me up. I am trustworthy and reliable. The problem is most of the people here don't go to a particular place like the cinema they'd rather just walk about the place talking and I was never allowed to go out with them. And now I've grown detached.
I feel like I'll never have a female friend, ever because I haven't actually talked to a girl my age in years. It's very depressing but I'm not depressed. I love every other bit of my life. Just not my social life.
Thanks For Answering Anyway :)
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (24 June 2012):
 It seems to be me that the issue lies with your mother keeping you from the typical social life experienced by teens in your area.
Do you have any idea why she is 'overprotective'? Is she worried about something in particular for you?
You could try sitting down with your Mum and making a case why you deserve and are ready for more freedom to come and go as the other people your age do. Explain that you feel it's holding your back and stifling your growth. Are you reliable in other ways? Where does your Dad stand in all this?
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