A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years now, and our sex life is going down the drain! He masturbates everyday and anytime I try to resolve the issue he ignores me or comes up with an excuse on why we don't have sex very often. Is it normal to only have sex once a month or once every two months?
View related questions:
sex life Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): He may be the lazy lover and blench from that part of sex of fulfilling the partner's wishes(?) When you do have sex, is he generous, does he devote time to satisfying your needs or rolls back to sleep as soon as he climaxed? For how long has this situation being going on and what do you think triggered it? Could it be he is insecure about being able to satisfy you which culminated with his giving up trying(?) Whichever the problem is, sit him down and ask him if he has any worries or concerns that make it difficult to become interested in you. Ask if he finds any flaws in other aspects of your relationship and this is mirrored by your situation of a poorer sex life. Try to understand his motivations and encourage him to make the effort to discuss them over! Nothing will (probably) change until he agrees that a healthy relationship and sex are intimately connected, and apart of listing excuses, he will accompany them by solutions and welcome you to do the same.
|
