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30-35,
*ctiveplay
writes:Look i need help on how to get back in line with my relationship. I love this girl and we hit it off great but after 5 months things just seemed to go kaboom, i really need someone to help me patch up my mistakes and help me get us back on track. Yours Truly, Desperado Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): In my humble opinion relationships that are formed during teenage rarely get through.I am sure there are lots of exceptions out there as well.
I can help you to learn to avoid fights and keep your cool.
* I have always noticed a well fed male is a happy one.Never let yourself go hungry.Eat healthy,drink lots of water.A healthy body leads to a healthy mind and a happy disposition.
* No two people are the same.Each one of us is different in our own ways.That's what makes us unique and interesting.Imagine a world where all of us think alike and are behaving exactly similar to each other.How boring would it be.
* you need to remember the above point when you are having your differences.Do not expect her to think like you.Give a listening ear to her point of view.Take a step back.Look at the situation from a third person's point of view.Be honest to yourself.If you find that you are wrong,apologize.
*Lets say she is wrong.Put your point across in a calm voice.No yelling.No wild gesticulating with hands.No trying to get her to accept your point by bullying her emotionally.Give her time.When she sees that you are being patient with her she will start treating you the same way.Trust Me.
*An older girl is much more mature than you.So try to grow up fast in order to match up with her.
*To keep your cool:
* When you get angry take a few deep breaths
* Concentrate on the air that you inhale and
exhale.Spend a few seconds on the inhalation and
exhalation
* Drink something cool
* Get out of the room and spend some time watching a
garden
I hope this helps you.I am sure the readers of DC are eager to know the story of this fairytale romance.I am sure eager to know.Keep smiling.
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male
reader, activeplay +, writes (22 November 2008):
activeplay is verified as being by the original poster of the question I have wrote letters and done everything that i can, tried to give her time but it ticked her off and the thought of us splitting up is something we both hate. She is a little older than me but that don't matter. And another thing is that she is a dreamgirl, like what happened to me only happens in fairy tales, so we was doing just fine then im not sure what sparked the fire but boom we were arughing once again, plz help me learn to avoid fights and learn to keep my cool!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): Can you please tell me what exactly you did so that I can help you more.
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reader, Teacake +, writes (22 November 2008):
 Either write her a letter and tell her all the things you feel bad about and want to apologize for or call her and tell her. Maybe that would help?
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