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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Why is it that i always look at the bad side of life.?Well i always think i am fat, i weigh about 7 and a half stone, and im 14 nearly 15, and 5'4-5. But im always worrying about my weight and every one says to me " you dont need to diet your so skinny " but i dont think that at all, i hate my legs, and i think i need to lose weight. Also, i hate how i look i think im ugly but every one else disagree's. i have had really nice comments from lads, but i still think the worst about self.Also i get depressed easily, becuase, my parents split up like 5 years ago, and are always arguing, it makes me upset, i no that sounds stupid because im like nearly 15, but hearing your mum and dad shout at each other nearly all the time is not nice as others would no. and it just makes me down.i have alot of friends, and have had boyfriends in my life, but i still just seem to look at the bad things about my self and i dont understand why, because it makes me feel so depressed. is there anything i can do that will make me enjoy life more.??
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): At 7.5 stone and 5'4" you are really quite underweight, not over. It sounds like the beginning of an eating disorder to me. This kinda thing is easily triggered by stress, (like your parents arguing) so I think maybe you should talk to a specialist online before an eating disorder really takes hold.
You have had loads of compliments from people! That should make your confidence higher, not lower. Most people think lower of themself than others, and normally when we insult people it's to make ourselves feel better, so if anyone makes any negative comments about your looks then you should ignore them and dismiss them as jealousy (I bet there are lots of girls dying to be your size.)
You should really ask people for honest opinions on what you look like when you are down. My ex made loads of nasty comments about my figure so I asked some of my guy mates and got positive comments back which made me feel a lot better again.
Parents shouting is a really big problem. However when they do argue, you should be thankful that at least you're not all living under the same roof. How often do your parents see each other? And why do they need to meet up? Do they know the affect this is having on you? Maybe you should talk to them. They should either try and maintain some level of control over themselves or just not see each other unless absolutely necessary. If they love you they will try and do something about it =]
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