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writes:I feel like our past is preventing our future. We have gone through a seperation before. It's seems as if our past just keeps haunting us. No matter what we fight about the past always comes up. I feel as though I let my husband come back out of pity and being lonely. I am so unhappy. I do not go out of my way to talk to him or tell him what happened through the day. We are on two different pages as far as parenting goes. He likes to think he is "god" so he says. I make most of the money and I feel bad telling him how I feel so I just keep it to myself. I have told him I was done with our marriage, but he will not leave because he has nowhere to go and does not make enough money to support himself. I just don't know what to do. Please help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2012): Ask yourself why you are still married to him? Seriously, what is keeping you in this marriage if you hate it so much? is it guilt? is it pity? is it needing the help he provides around the house? is it fear of being on your own? then ask yourself what do you want your life to look like if you could magically have a do-over. Then ask yourself if it's possible to achieve that kind of life you desire, while being married to him assuming nothing changes? probably not? then what has to change in this marriage for you to be happy? how likely is that change to happen?Decide once and for all if you want to try and make this work and stay together, or to get divorced.if you are deciding to stay with him then you need to go to marriage counseling to learn how to improve and change the relationship since everything you do on your own doesn't work.if you don't even want to try anything new to change the relationship, if you just can't stand him so much anymore, or if the marriage counseling fails, then better to get divorced. if he doesn't make enough money to support himself then he has a lot of growing up to do which he won't if you're still financially supporting him.
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