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writes:I was set up with this guy by a mutual friend and right off the bat there were awkward silences. I don't know if it was because of me or him, but I just couldn't think of anything to get the conversation going and apparently neither could he. I'm not the shy, quiet type, but for whatever reason i couldn't think of anything to say.The date did not go well because we couldn't think of any conversation topics. But I still want to give it a second chance even though I'm positive he doesn't feel that way. At the end, he walked me to my car and we said our goodbyes and that was it.But like i said, I want to give it another try and get to know him better because he really does seem like a nice, genuine guy.Is there any way I can salvage this situation?
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (21 January 2012):
Ya, sorry I think it does. It's his move next. If he doesn't make a move then you'll know - at least for now.
At least the next time when you meet you'll have already communicated and it'll help avoid that awkward moment. Make sure you say hi to him if you see him out as good guys tend to hang out with good guys.
Sorry but I think it might be time to move on. On the bright side, there are a ton of nice genuine guys out there if you like that type.
Try taking a couple of girl friends out to a friendly pub/bar that has live music and where mostly guys hang out (not a sports bar). Usually they congragate there. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI emailed him saying that is was great meeting him the other night. And he responded with it was nice meeting me as well. Can I take this to mean he's not interested in trying again?
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reader, 11muds11 +, writes (20 January 2012):
Kinda shocked there aren't a lot of answers to your question. It's a very interesting one.
I have lots of friends who got married or had long interesting relationships after an awful first date. Wanna know why? Because the guy was trying too hard (usually for very good reasons) and became tongue tied.
I think this one is easy. He knows the date went bad so he's not expecting any messages from you in any way. Simply tweet or text him how it was nice to spend time with him. You might mention that you're sorry that you were tongue tied but that's up to you. If he writes back and says he'd like to see you again, maybe suggest a movie or something where you both have to watch and you'll have natural things to talk about.
The nice thing is that because the first date wasn't great, it takes a ton of pressure off the second one. If the first one's great and the second one is bad, you're in worse shape then you are now.
If he doesn't text or tweet you back then you'll know. I suspect he will. Good luck.
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