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writes:My partner and i have been living together 3 years 6 months and we had our ups and downs,we have been through alot together we now have moved to the UK far away from our home country but strangely our parents came on a holiday after 2 years and their were alot of bickering between all of us. My partner seems to think that my mom is wrong and i think her mom is wrong so there is no conclusion in this. She broke up with me because she thinks our families will never get along even tho we are still living under the same roof. Now she wants to go back to our home country and leave me behind and im not sure what to do cos i like being in this country, anyway she always threatens me when it comes to leaving, i honestly can't handle this anymore. i see her everyday even tho we have not been together for past 2 weeks. im trying my best to make things rite between the two of us but she is being to hard.I have sleepless nights cos i know that she is sleeping in the other room peacefully like nothing is wrong. im confused on what to do cos im just scared of being alone after such long relationship. i wish i cud move on but the house that we live in is full of memories of her when she is not around. its hard to move out cos im in a financial situation.Please give me advice on what to do. i would really appreciate it......thanx............
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (7 February 2007):
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i think you need to accept that things might never be right between the two of you. she knew all along your parents dont get along maybe her mother being around made her miss home and she decided to turn things around so that you wont have to blame yourself for the break-up. and i would say having both mothers in the same house is always a disaster do not allow this to happen again it just doesnt work. she is still there talk to her make sure when she finally leaves there are no hard feelings this is the time to get closure. because if her mind is made-up you wnt be able to change it.
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reader, depaiva +, writes (7 February 2007):
 You say you've been together for 3 and a half years and you've been through your ups and downs-this sounds like one of your downs. Why is it so hard to get through this one? No matter what relationship you in there will always be problem with the families-it's just something no couple can avoid.
From what you say, it sounds like she has given up on the relationship and it sounds like you're loosing hope too. You never said if you still love but only that you're scared to be alone, it's not fair on you to hold onto someone because of your insecurities. You need to be true to yourself-if you still love her then fight for her, show her how much she means to you and how much her happiness means to you. If you figure out that you're more afraid of being alone then you're cheating yourself out of true happiness. And everyone deserves to be happy.
As for your financial issues, you going to have to take it a day at a time. If it's more money and a better job you want then make an effort to start looking for one. Work on a monthly budget and stick to it. Open up a savings account and make sure you stick to depositing a certain amount every month or maybe take out a policy. Just remember that your financial problem aren't going to disappear over night-it will take time.
I hope all works out for you-you deserve happiness.
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