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writes: my boy-friend and i have had it hard since we started dating and people have been telling me hes cheating but i belive him he hasnt but he does lie to me sometimes but when im with him i couldnt be happier and when im not i want him here with me i thought we could both do with space so i sent a message saying i would txt him in a few days time that i need time to think he sent back dont bother i wont answer in a few days time what will i do? i really like him Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2006): Well, I don't know how this can be made any clearer to you, dear. First of all, if he lies to you, then he's quite capable of cheating. He's not an honest person-I sure hope you can see that. Discern his feelings for you, by his behaviours-not what he says. Think long and hard about this. Your friends have warned you about his cheating behaviours( red flag), then he has lied (red flag)to you and you still...don't you get it? Stop being in denial and take a stand-he's treating you like dirt, dear and you are allowing it. This is all about your moral perspective in dating guys, how you value yourself and others, and how you want to be treated in the future. This guy is treating you like a doormat. Given your experience and your friends' reactions you will need to decide whether you want to keep 'worshipping" him simply because you want a boyfriend..any boyfriend. Or you want to kick this guy to the curb and retain your self-respect throughout all of this. Never..ever...let a man treat you like this again...and start listening to your friends. Go find someone better than this loser. There are wonderful boys out there who'd like to find someone as nice as you..but never allow anyone to "take you down' like this guy is doing. You are worth more..and you should know that. Take care
Hugs, Irish
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reader, Liverpool_lass +, writes (3 January 2006):
 if he bites your head of at the first sign of a break he isnt worth it girl but i dont think he is cheating on you if he has that reaction because when men/lads like a girl they do go all defensive and hide their feelings if they think there is a sign of a break up or if u dont like him in the way he likes you just try and talk to him instead of sugesting space he may open up and tell you the truth i found thats what worked with my boyfriend and i. I it works out for you both. x x x
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reader, CRAZYGIRL +, writes (3 January 2006):
LIES AREN'T GOOD AT ALL. IF YOU BELIEVE HE'S NOT CHEATING WHY DOES HE LIE? PLUS IT SOUNDS LIKE HE'S PLAYING GAMES WITH YOU FROM ALL THAT TEXT MESSAGING. TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS AND DON'T GIVE YOUR ALL IF HE'S NOT MEETING YOU HALFWAY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2006): I think you should get out while you can. Sounds like this relationship is doomed from the start. He wont change. If he lies about one thing he'll lie about other things especially when he knows he can get away with it. Think yourself lucky that you dont have to be with this guy.
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