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writes:Hi,Being single and never married. I was disappointed in the direction the dating scene was going. Not meeting people that were as serious about a relationship. As a result, stopped dating for years. I thought I was happy being single. Not even looking for anyone or even wanting to meet a woman.I worked with this woman for a year or more, before I noticed her. We talked but I never saw her betond a co-worker. One day we were talking and I saw her in a way I never looked at her before. It was a specific event that made me notice her and since then I have really started to have feelings for her. After 4 months I decided to ask het out. The response wasn't exactly encouraging. She said she wasn't expecting this and said she would think about it.After 2 weeks I mentioned it again and asked if she was serious or just letting me down in a nice way. She replied that she was thinking and needed time. But after another week I'm starting to think I should forget and move on. But I do really have feelings for her. Even though she is reluctant to talk about it. We talk at work but are constantly interupted. So not much for conversation. And she was hesitant for me to call her. I know she has what she refers to as a "friend". You know what that means. So I'm thinking I am just a guy in the waiting. tomorrow I will ask her to make a decision as to at least meet me outside of work. If not I will move on. I want to be able to have at least a normal adult conversation with her without being interrupted.Do you think this is the right move considering the situation?Long message. thanks for reading it. Just wanted to present the whole situation.ed45
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reader, ed45 +, writes (14 March 2010):
ed45 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate.
I jumped to conclusions too fast. We will be getting together this week.
I decided to go ahead and call her. Positive. We talked about the reason she is hesitant.
situation looks great.
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reader, ed45 +, writes (13 March 2010):
ed45 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI answered my own question today. She avoided talking about it and seemed annoyed when I tried to talk to her. So I am moving on. If she was really interested she would have talked to me outside of work by now. Or even met me somewhere. Now I feel stupid I waited when asked for time. Other peoples opinions would still be nice to here.Thankyou,ed45
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