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writes: okay, wat is everyone's oppinion on this, me n my bf av been together for 6 months, he is 15 n im almost 14, we trust each other n he really loves me n i love him more than anything.i av gone to 3rd base with him (sucked him off) n he has gone to 2nd with me (fingered) he wants to go to 3rd with me this weekend. i am totally happy with this, i wouldnt do any of this if i didnt truely love him. wat are everyones thoughts on that? i have never done anything with anyone else before except kiss and he had his first kiss with me. also when i do suck him off and go to second with him, he says he really enjoys it and is amazing and everything, but not once in the 6 months has he ever cum! i av mentioned it to him n he was saying that its not me, its probs dus him, his body or summit..is he okay? can i do anything to make it more plesurable for him? any advise wud be helpful, thanks for your time Xx J xX Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006): if u feel confortable with it, go for it, but whenever u wqant him to stop or do it slower tell him, dont be embrrassed!!
hope evrything goes fine for u darling
have fun be safe!!!
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reader, bby_gal06 +, writes (29 October 2006):
 hiya
having sex and stuff is not good at your age becuase your body isnt ready for it and young girls often get used and abused with in the sexual environment.
he probably is nervous about his perfomance or maybe he hasnt even been able to cum yet.
he maybe nervous about this and feels he cant talk to you.
but if you feel like your pleasuring him there should not change what your doing.
just becarefull about what your doing with this guy as you say you love him but remember your only young and gullable.
im not saying you dont love him but you maybe not sure what love ius until you experience other relationships and then you might look back and think hang on... i dont love him as i didnt feel as much as i do for this person.
just use condoms just incase you dont want to be a young mum live your life first. x
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (29 October 2006):
 Sexual performance anxiety at 14 is not a good thing but it is normal because emotionally you are just not ready for doing the things you have been up to - your body maybe but the brain has some catching up to do. I am not going to give you 'sex tips' on how to have better oral sex with your boyfriend because you need to stop focusing on that aspect of your relationship and start thinking about where you are leading to. You are 14 and have all the time in the world to develop a sex life with this boy when you are older. If he loves you then he would understand and remain interested. You talk about 2nd base, 3rd base etc as if these are great milestones to be achieved...it is not a race and inevitably once you pass that stage then you are going to enter into a full sexual relationship with this boy. You have only known him 6 months and you write 'you love him more than anything'...what you mean is that you like him, and you like the attention he gives you but you shouldnt love him more than you love yourself. You also say 'he wants to go to 3rd' etc...you shouldnt feel under pressure to do stuff at such a young age just to keep his interest. You say you are 'happy' but I am not convinced because (a) you wouldn't be so anxious about pleasing him with oral sex and (b) you wouldn't be posting here for opinions on what you plan to do. You just need to think about things very carefully - most girls who start sexual relationships at a very early age say they regretted it later in life. Dont mistake love for lust!
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reader, JillAnnMarie +, writes (29 October 2006):
Hello,
Here is what I think. If you can honestly say true to your heart that you will never regret or feel ashamed about it, then all power to you. You just have to make sure that you can say that to yourself. Don't worry about anyone else, its just you, yourself and well again you, that you should worry about. Just make sure that you won't be embaraced, ashamed or regret it, cause its something that you will have on your conscience for the rest of your life if you do.
Plus make sure that you don't change yourself to do this. If you have to.. then this isn't you.
Good luck,
JAMS
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006): Hey,
I know you don't know me, but as a woman that has been through this, I say go for it if its what you want. Take that part very seriously "Is this what you want?" dont worry about anyone else. If you can say that when you are older you will not regret this or feel ashamed about it. If you won't and you can honest say that in your heart to yourself, then all power to you. Just make sure that your not changing yourseld by doing this. If this isn't you then it isn't for you.
Good Luck!
JAMS
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006): if u feel it's right, it's comfortable for you, etc, etc, etc, etc, then do whatever you feel is good between you two. None of anyone else's business. Of course, the usual blurb of contraception and stuff...
As for giving him oral, not every guy can cum from that. Eg: an ex would feel really depressed that she couldn't get me off that way. Possibly because she didn't know how to, coupled with the fact that it would take her at least 15+ minutes to blow me off that way. Really, to me I think, it's mainly a mental satisfaction more-so than a physical one.
I think you just need to keep communications open, and see if there are other ways aiding oral pleasure - eg: fondling his nuts, jerking him off while you lick his underside, get his schlong really wet and swallow him whole, etc, etc.
[wink]
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006): Just so that you know you can still get an STD from oral sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006): tell him not be nervous about cuming. Tell him he should just relax and finish it, but if you have sex with him ALWAYS use a condom.
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