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writes: Ever since we got engaged -1 month ago - my finacee seems to be taking me for granted by us having quickie sex (ie: no forplay or romance) and the flowers and hugs and kisses have all but stopped. What should I do?
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (20 April 2006):
 Tell him how you feel and then show him how to do it.....is it all one way? Like the male anon below sez - why should it all be his responsibility. It takes two to tango. Suprise him with agift, sexy underwear or a night on the town, show him how to do it, he will soon reciprocate!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2006): Firstly, and Im sure this is going to create one hell of an argument, take a look at yourself. The amount of couples I see where the female is in complete denial is actually quite shocking. Obviously it takes two to tango but ask yourself this? Have you been paying him enough attention recently? How many hours are you working? When was the last time YOU suggested you both go out together? etc etc etc. Unfortunately most men are pretty insecure deep down, and need constant encouragement and attention. Try lavishing him for 5 days and I almost guarantee things will turn around.
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reader, pops +, writes (7 July 2005):
Put the whoa in his giddyup, girl! Talk to him. tell him you are feeling misused since your engagement, and tell him what you are missing. Men are basically dumb as posts, and need to be hit up side the head occasionally to get them to think about someone other than themselves. Demand that he respect you and your needs, or tell him to take a hike. YOu can get quicky sex just about anywhere, and you kind find someone who will treat you nicer than he is without breaking a sweat! The more you allow him to get away his behavior, the less respect he will have for you. pops
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reader, Matt,20 +, writes (7 July 2005):
Hi there,One month defentely seems to be a problem, the only thing that I can think of is probably the fact of being engaged affect him in a way that he may believe on his own, the only way to find out this is to talk to your Fiancé and only that way can be resolved.Most man, as a man myself, and being engaged just 2 weeks, feel a bit " too much " kind of thing when engaged, but regarding the sex, it's very hard to be concern on the fact of getting engaged may have caused the sex to be as it is., you know that sex is an emotional as well as a physical experience, so there may be other reasons why he would like to " rush " it. For the question What should I do ?The answer is very straight, Talk to him, tell him how you feel about things, tell him that everything seems to be degrading. Make him understand with every detail as possible.You will see that a solution can easily be found. Just pay attention to what he says... you need to work together with this, is not something that you only need to do.Wish You all the very best, Matt,20.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (6 July 2005):
He obviously feels that now you are "his" he doesnt need to make an effort any more. Tell him how you feel and if things dont change, perhaps you should call off your engagement for a while?
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