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writes:Hi there,I have a major issue thats been controlling my life, I have a very bad habit of internet stalking people, my boyfriends ex, friends of friends, my ex and his new gf, its like an addiction, it think its interesting watching peoples lives like a soap opera but it mainly stems from my own insecurities and I look anline to find out what they are doing and comparing myself, im obsessed with comparing myself to these other women, I hate it and im ashamed, how can I stop, I tried deleting my networking accounts but i always end up back on them. I cant keep wasting my life watching others i sometimes wish the internet/ social networks never existed even though they are a great use in other waysplease help :(
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (18 February 2015):
 AA and such 12 step programs have online meetings.
I asked my hubby yesterday if we did ONLINE meetings for an internet addiction would it count?
I was being facetious but it's true... addictions come in all shapes and sizes.
some are easier to give up than others.
you know you have an issue. perhaps a bit of professional intervention is called for.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 February 2015):
 It doesn't sound like a habit so much as an obsession. I agree with EWO that if you can't handle this on your own then professional help is called for.
Talk to your doctor as soon as possible.
In the meantime, have someone install net nanny type software on your devices and have them block your access to these networks.
Best wishes.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 February 2015):
 Like quitting any bad habit, if you can't stop it on your own then you need to seek professional help. There is no shame in that. The only shame I see is if you DON'T do anything about it and indeed waste your life peering into other people's.
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reader, Midnight Shadow +, writes (17 February 2015):
 The good news is, acknowledging that it's a problem is a start, now you need to get some professional therapy to get to the root of your insecurities and resolve them, then you shouldn't feel the need to stalk people (but you'd still need to talk to the therapist about the stalking issue).
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