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*ngel delight
writes:HelloI'm hoping someone can shed a light please?...Last week I met a guy online. We exchanged loads of messages and seemed to get on really well and have loads in common. I told him my interests ag walking, camping and he hinted that he would like to go with me. In a couple of his emails he seemed disbelieving that i liked him and in one he said "i cant believe you are real" He asked me to send him pics to his private email address but i didnt and one of the 3 nights we were messaging i logged off and went to bed mid convo with him. The following day i read his last message to me which read "where have you gone?:-( maybe your busy!"I took this as he thought i was ignoring him and speaking to someone else, which i wasnt!The following day he was really distant with one word answers to my messages and he hasnt been online since?I have sent him a couple of messages, which he hasnt replied to but he hasnt been online chatting to other girls either?Im not sure what i should do? I really liked him and i think we got on really well but he seems to have vanished!I have read on many websites about Scorpio men being quite difficult and jealous and he is a Scorpio...can anyone advise please?
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (14 February 2013):
People need to stop thinking exchanging electrons over a network somehow constitutes a "relationship."
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reader, Joey Notice +, writes (13 February 2013):
Why have you become so attached with a guy online? It is a sign of extreme desperation and that is what needs dealing with more than anything else.
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (13 February 2013):
 No one knows what he is thinking or why he`s disappeared on you. What I can tell you is when a man is interested in a woman, he will not hesitate or waste time, whether Scorpio, Taurus, Gemini, Leo, Capricorn or whatever. If you left the conversation without telling him he may have simply moved on to the next conversation with someone else and now probably cannot believe she is real either. Move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2013): You cut off a conversation. Did you tell him you was leaving and say bye or did you rudely disappear? Online women are ten a penny. He probably moved on to someone else. "I cant believe you are real" are probably words he uses to all of them. I think you should be focusing more on why a guy you have only ever spoken to online is having such an effect on you? I played the online dating game. The same people will still be on those sites now from 4 years ago. The majority I found to be liars (single turned out to be wanting to cheat on their undeserving partners, had 2 children turned out to have 4, professional turned out to be professional unemployed chav etc). You need to work out why a chancer on a dating site who you barely know means so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2013): Why dont you get dressed up and go out? It all sounds very desperate all this. Why do people have to resort to online dating and then take it serious and end up disappointed? Surely you can meet someone without having to join online dating sites?
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (13 February 2013):
 Unfortunately it sounds like your scared him off or he started to think you really weren't who you said you were. These days the whole "catfish" deal is rampant, where people pretend to be people of the opposite sex and try to entice people into online relationships. Maybe he felt he was being set up or you were too good to be true.
Chatting with people online is fun, but you have to take a huge leap of faith in trusting the person you are talking with is who they say they are. It would appear to me, that he thought something funny was going on and decided to part ways.
You didn't invest too much time into him and while it is sad it didn't work out, I think you simply move on. You can't undo this and if he isn't responding to your messages it means he has moved on too.
Eddie
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 February 2013):
 you walked away from a conversation without telling him? well no wonder he's being distant.... that was not nice.
as for pics... did he want face shots or dirty pictures.
I see no problem with face shots..... if it was just face shots he asked for did you tell him why you would not send them? or better yet do you have facebook and you can friend him there....
if he has not been online perhaps he's busy
if he gets back to you, you owe him an apology for disappearing... but he may not bother and I'm not sure I blame him...
if you live close enough to make plans... make it so
coffee at a public place... see if the chemistry is real
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (13 February 2013):
 HI
firstly you did the right thing by not exchanging pictures of any kind, saftey is really important with online sites.( many people have had there pictures used to open another accounts with to lure un-suspecting victims) secondly why did you go mid convo without saying goodbye? that would come across pretty rude so it's no wonder why he felt a bit upset and has not been in touch since. never the less you don't really know him or he you so I would just block him and put it down to trial and error. Just be really careful on who you decide to speak with in future, and if you meet with anyone make sure its a double date so your not in any danger, you really don't know who is out there these days.
Mandy x
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