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writes:hi everyone,first thanks for reading my post and marry Christmas and new year.I am trying my luck online dating.it's almost year ago I met a guy through online.we really like each other.But when I told him I don't want sex before marriage he was confuse to continue with me or not. so we were still chatting but I did meet him. he wanted to meet me but I started to make different excuses. Since,we were different. Then he started to met other girls. but all time he complained that most of them want money and sex.any way, I got busy and my membership expired. after few months I started again I mean online dating. we again started again talking. two weeks ago he asked me if I want to meet him. I told him I can't sex. I have same views. he respect my wish and told me he is fine with that. he will not push me for sex. he asked me if I am free on weekend. we were making plans. then next day I had accident. my car damaged badly and my knees hurt. I told him about my situation. I mailed him . but unfortunately he did not reply me. he just asked me am I okay that's all. he stopped talking with me. I mailed him if he is fine. Since I didn't hear back from him. he didn't reply my mail. I see him most of time online but he don't talk with me. he is almost 12years older then me. now I am thinking may be he thought I made excuses to don't meet him.or may be he felt I am lier.I really like him. I am very picky I don't like someone easily.please help me. here is question did he stop talking with me Bcs he wanted sex or Bcs he felt I am making excuses.he is 40plus so he has to be mature enough to understand situation when I had accident.Thanks for all replies.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 December 2015):
 You have been talking online for a whole year and only met once?
Maybe.... he really wasn't OK with no sex till marriage and he decided to go look for someone who is a better match.
To me I think he might have felt you "strung" him along and he just felt OK one year and we have gotten nowhere. Or the guy was chatting to other females at the same time and someone else lived closer or was a better fit.
I'd leave him a long and look for someone whom you have more in common with.
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reader, mishi 1 +, writes (26 December 2015):
mishi 1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for your reply. I just wanted to say I met him only one time in person. that's all. then whenever he wanted to meet I made different excuses.Since , I felt we were different. sex was very important for him before marriage.
I told him my views but still he wanted to meet.But never accept my views. but this time he accept and disappear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2015): With online dating you cannot just get too attached to one person without meeting them. It's a world where people are chatting to multiple pepole and meeting up. It's great that you are honest from the start that you won't have sex before marriage, but you still need to meet people in person a lot sooner. Leaving it a year is far too long and I think this man has just became bored. There are lots of other people he can talk to and arrange to meet up with.
Whatever he thinks, it's time to move on from him and talk to other men and arrange coffee dates. Meeting someone in the morning for a coffee or early afternoon is much more relaxed than going out in the evening. Get to know people in real life and not just talking online. Obviously always meet in a public place and tell someone where you've gone, who you're meeting and how long you expect to be there for. It's best to be safe when meeting total strangers (because no matter how long you're talking online they're still a complete stranger). Good luck in your dating!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2015): Ok. I think he is just tired of the whole situation. One year and you haven't met in person? Is now or never. If he doesn't believe about your accident, well is time to forget and keep looking somewhere else. Don't beg him.
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