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30-35,
*aleemrodman
writes:Okay this girl and I have been in an online relationship (I know it's not a good idea) for three months, but we just met on Facebook and started talking. We became online friends, and we eventually started getting interested in each other. She even sent me a letter telling me how she feels about me, and we suddenly had feelings for each other. We would talk 6-7 hours weekly (video call) and we could talk for hours and hours. Whenever I would leave the country for a vacation, she would always tell me not to forget her, and she said that she feels insecure. She asked me why I picked her over other girls, and I told her that other girls have wasted my time, and I don't like using my energy for them. Everything was going great, and I really wanted to start a real relationship with her. Unfortunately a few weeks ago, she found out that she was pregnant with her ex's baby, and that she had been for 11 weeks. She decided that she was going to get an abortion. She then talked to me less, and I thought she had lost interest in me. After ignoring me for a week, she told me that she kept her distance from everyone, and not just me. She even cried on video call for no reason in front of me, and I think this has to do with hormones, but I'm not sure. When I told her that I would come visit her, she was excited and she started planning what we would do, each and every day. Shen then ignored me for a few days, and then I got a message from her:"yayyy u bought your tickets. that was fast. I didn't have have time for second thoughts. It's cool. I'm excited." Later on, I called her and this was the conversation.Me: Do you really want me to visit you?Her: I want you to but I don't think I'm readyHer: It's not you. It's my insecurities.Her: My insecurities make me not want to see you YET.Her: Since we have no other time and you bought the tickets, it's cool.Me: I'm sorry I'm such a burden in your life. I wish I could leave you alone.Her: Don't say that. Why are you always thinking negatives. I thought we went over this, baby. I thought you were okay about us. The way I feel about you hasn't changed at all. It's just I don't think I'm ready. I might still be pregnant and if not, I would have already had the surgery. Since we have no other time, it's fine. I want to see you. So shush :)That was the convo we had, but these days whenever I try to talk to her, she only responds sometimes because she's ignoring everyone, and just watching movies. What's up with that? Is it her hormones or has she lost interest? How do I get her to miss me and contact me? When we talked, she said things like:"So when you come. When are you going to kiss me?" "We can hold hands everywhere except my neihbourhood. I know way too many people there, including my parents." "Can you give me one of your sweaters? I want to wear it when I'm cold."*These are things she says, but she's been talking to me less ever since her pregnancy. Is she still interested? NO I do not want to get out of this. If I feel like getting out of this situation, I will.Also she tells me to keep her skype on, but she never contacts me first, like she did before the pregnancy. I'm the one who has to contact her, but she doesn't always respond anymore. What's going on here? Is she still interested? Are her hormones getting in the way? When will everything be close to normal, again? I will visit her in two weeks. What should I do? What do you think she feels? I always tell her that if she's not into me anymore, she should tell me, but she always tells me to stop thinking negative things. So what's going on? What should I do? What should I do when I go see her in two weeks? Is she still interested? She doesn't just ignore me. She ignores pretty much everyone, except close friends.
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reader, Fabulosa  +, writes (1 February 2011):
 It sounds like she might not want to abort her baby. How would you feel if she didn't? Would you be there for her? If yes tell her. And Idk why she wouldn't want people seeingjer hold your hand. She's a grown woman for christs sake. Maybe she's talking to her ex. You deserve to know the truth and to me it doesn't sound like your getting it. As far as the hormone are concerned I doubt that an issue. When im pregnant I crave attention.
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