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writes: Something has been bugging me about a friend I've met through the net. Over the course of the last four months, we've sent countless emails to each other on a daily basis. She has also sent some gifts over to me via postal mail. I have sent her video letters and static pictures of myself to her and she has sent older pictures to me. "Older" pictures being roughly 1+ years. We've shared some pretty intimate details which most are just each others deeper thoughts. However, though I have not directly asked her for her video or pictures, it seems as though she refuses to send them to me due to a personal issue.What I am wondering is why? Is it because she feels ugly? Is it because she feels I may reject her? What could it be? I have a strong urge to ask her, but I do not want to upset her if that ever becomes misinterpreted.Any ideas? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes it did. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Female Reader (first post), I'll take your suggestions into consideration as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're definitely right on that Satindesire and not to annoy you, but can you give me a few ideas of your own as to why you would do what she does, if you were in her position? I will eventually ask her however.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): Hi! So my friend (a girl) used to talk to this guy online and she didn't want to send full length body pictures (so just her face) to him because she thought she was fat. And she did not want to bring it up and was actually nervous that he would.
Maybe this girl is insecure as well, because lots of girls love to show off what they have! I love to look cute for my bf and he makes me feel attractive. So maybe you can approach the subject indirectly? Like you said you two have deep conversations right? So when she says something insightful or that you agree with, say 'your such a beautiful person' or 'I cant wait until I can hear you saying these things fact to face' or something complimentary. She probably needs to be reassured that you like her and you will like all of her.
I am NOT saying she is probably ugly! Don't think that! I am saying she probably needs assurance and I'm sure she is great!
OR just approach it directly and say that you'd love to put a (current!) face this great person you talk to!
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