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writes:So i had broke up with my girlfriend because of many differences that would only keep pushing us apart. I am very shy and do not meet knew people easily so I made an account on eharmoney.Now that i think about it it may have been a premature and silly thing to do seeing as im still young and in college. But some of the matches it gave me seem like they would be really great people to meet. They have so much in common with me and seem like the kind of person I could get along with. The only problem is that i live permanently 7 hrs from where i go to school (i plan on moving after graduation to a place between home and school) and the matches are near my school. I dont mind traveling to meet someone tho. I guess im just asking if you guys think it was silly of me and i should just delete my account and get on with school and life or if i should maybe try to make a connection with one of these people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): Looking for a relationship right after a breakup is not a wise thing to do. Just ask anyone around here about rebounds.
That being said, online dating can be a great thing if you're aware of the advantages and disadvantages.
Advantages: Most dating sites can match you up with compatible people right away. In real life, it takes a lot of time to determine if someone is compatible with you.
Disadvantages: The same as most online communication mediums: some stupid people don't realize they're forming bonds with human beings. Some feel entitled to lie, manipulate and do things they wouldn't do in real life. And I'm not just talking about things like rape: some girls can just lead you on and convince you that you're everything in their life, without ever meeting you in person. They'll make you send them gifts or money and you won't get anything in return. If you're lucky, they'll just break your heart and waste a lot of your time.
I don't know about your situation, but since you recently broke up, it's likely that you're feeling a bit lonely, and thus you might accidentally overlook some of the warning signs in the hopes of getting companionship. So, don't do it unless you feel patient, wise and confident enough.
And anyway, it's BETTER if you don't live right next to your matches. Distance will protect your privacy and test the strength of your relationships.
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reader, Wicked_Pineapple  +, writes (23 December 2010):
...Hmmm, I know this will sound pretty dumb but I think you should follow your heart, head and gut instincts on what you feel is the right thing to do.And by the end of the day, you have to live with whatever choice you make...not us (you know the strange people answering your question =p)PS- its not a 'premature and silly' thing cause your just looking for love...like tons of other people out there =]...either way good luck with your could-be lovePSS- sorry for babbling too much...its a problem Im dealing with -_-
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