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writes:I met my bf on xbox live. We have known eachother for 3 years. Two months ago we decided to start dating. We talk all the time. We web cam and phone and sync with netflix movies. We are so close and know just about everything about eachother. But there's one thing and that is that he's terrified of meeting me. He says that he is so scared of disappointing me and he fears success. I have been trying my best to be supportive and helping him understand that disappointment is part of life. I don't expect him to be perfect. He made a date to come this week but just couldn't go thru with it. I have no idea where to go from here. Any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): You now need to decide how long you will wait for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah it's brutal on xbl lol. Especially being a chick gamer who can do a lil butt kicking ;) my gt is Luna bird xoxox btw
but thank you so much for ur input. It makes me feel a bit better. I am the go getter type and he's a planner and thinker. So it's been difficult to be patient. And your words are definately a huge help.
We love and care about eachother so much. Neither of us want to loose what we have.
Everyday I make sure he knows I'm not going anywhere and that I love and support him. I'm trying to help him overcome his fears I just need to give him time I know.
Thank you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): First off I have to say its awesome you met on X Box Live. I am so sick of little kids cussing me out, its nice to see two people can actually fall in love on there haha. But I have to say I understand what he is saying. I met a girl online and as much as I wanted to meet her, I was just so very scared of finally being with her and having her be dissapointed in me. I was worried about saying the wrong things, not doing something right, and just messing it all up. He knows that you care about him, and he is glad to have you in his life. He loves what the two of you have and as great as it would be to have even more, he is just worried about losing everything. Try your best to tell him that he is amazing, he could never do anything wrong, and that once you two are finally together your relationship will be even better than ever. Tell him you understand he is nervous and scared and so are you, but you care about him so much, no fear will stand in your way. Just try to be patient with him and dont pressure him and hopefully he will come around and you two can finally be together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): Perhaps he has a physical disability he has successfully masked thus far and is afraid he hasn't been on the level with you or he's a uber geek chained to the xbox in the basement of his parent's home. Whatever the reason why would he agree to date you if he knew he couldn't, wouldn't meet you? Consider yourself lucky, don't attempt to be his savior and find a real man who will be genuine with you. I know I sound harsh but you're not his mommy.
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