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36-40,
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writes:I'm over 27 and dating. One question I get asked a lot is about my past relationships. The problem is, I haven't had any. I've had one problem or head trip after another. I've also been a bit of a nerd. I can honestly say that I am over all of that. I know these women are asking me this question to screen me out, the way an employer would look at past work experience. I know I am a sane, well-balanced guy, but I am afraid that if I am truthful before I get to know a woman I will get dumped by the second date. Any advice on how to handle this question? Reply to this Question
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reader, StarryEyes101 +, writes (1 June 2012):
 Tell her the truth. If she can't accept it then she isn't the right person for you. It shouldn't matter if you have had none or 50 relationships, as long as you are honest.
You have been a bit of a nerd? Who isn't? Everyone has a nerdy personality. You would be surprised.
Truthful is what women want to hear. It's their choice whether or not they want to believe you.
Good luck :)
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female
reader, agneeman  +, writes (1 June 2012):
 here you are fearing you won't get a second date and here I am dying to date you... No exgirlfriend drama!! Sounds like paradise to me.
Chill out, make a bit of a joke about havin been a nerd before, it's kinda sexy... And then say seriously "I'm only really starting to feel comfortable dating now" or, if you wanna sound really smooth, say "it's just, I don't take relationships lightly like other people do, I am looking for some one special..." or variation "I only really wanna date a girl I think is really special"
(notice the underlying compliment?)
Good luck!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 June 2012):
 Be honest. Tell them that relationships haven't been a focus in your life when you were younger.
I think if a women "screen" you out as you call it, because you haven't been through several relationships by now, she isn't for you. So in a sense they weed themselves out for YOU as well.
Having had MANY relationships doesn't make you a better partner. It only proves that someone "failed" in either picking the right partner or maintaining a relationship.
BE who you are.
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