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writes: I broke up with my ex over a stupid argument-I calmly asked if he could stop using my shampoo and shower stuff and if he could buy his own-he flipped out and yelled at me saying that then I should help pay the bills or get out of his house. We had only been living in his house together that he owned for 1 month-he has owned it for 10 years and pays the mortgage. One of the reasons we always fought was because of money, because I had left my job in one state to live with him and start a new career and at the time I wasn't making that much money-yet he still expected me to pay a third of his mortgage-which would be $1,000 and I wasn't making enough to do that and pay my own bills and pay for our food. Anyway, since we argued about this and many other things-because he was disrespectful and emotionally abusive I saw this as an opportunity to leave-I don't think I should have to put up with him talking or yelling to me like that. If something concerns me (like him not paying for toiletries) I shouldn't have to worry about upsetting him-I should speak my mind. And I find it hypocritcal how the week previous to this incident he said I couldn't eat any of the "lunch meals" he prepared for himself. He owned his own business, but I was working and gone from the house 10 hours a day and he always complained that he worked harder than me when he would go into work around noon and leave when he wanted. Anyway, I broke up with him 3 months ago, and he kept calling and stuff and i responded once in a while and about 2 weeks ago I told him for the 10th time that we are over and how I don't want him to contact me. He has contacted me by text and called last night and sent me a package yesterday but I haven't responded. In the package he sent me shampoo-probably because of the day we broke up, and a purse and some food and something he won for me at a carnival when we were together. All I really want is for him to see he has a problem and change. My question is, why is he contacting me, and what do I do?
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (21 December 2007):
 Stay away. If he was emotionally abusive, you don't want to get back into that, and it sounds as though the two of you weren't all that compatible anyway. Don't even reply to his texts, don't answer the phone when you see it's him calling, don't acknowledge the package. If you start talking to him again now, you'll probably end up getting back with him.
Unless that's what you want, in which case, answer away.
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