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writes:I was with Jenny for three months. I really thought Jenny was the one. She couldn't be without me, she told me she'd never loved another man as much as she loved me, she wanted me to move in with her and spend the rest of her life with me! (A bit soon, I thought, but I could see the possibilities)There were occasions she made me feel really uncomfortable, if I spoke to another woman, or even noticed! She was really jealous of my ex too.But last week, we took my daughter and her kids to a theme park, and had a fantastic time, (apart from one moment when my daughter asked me if I could give my ex a lift when she starts Uni). She told me she loved me, she wanted me by her side 24/7, and that she was so proud of her new family.Friday evening, I went to her house and cooked for her. We had a really lovely night. She was really affectionate, told me she adored me, made me promise never to leave her, PROPOSED to me, started speaking about her ex, and what a sh*t he is, started crying, started babbling incoherently, told me she's under a lot of stress and that she can't give up her kids or job so I've got to go!She rang me at 7 the next morning and said she'd made a big mistake, and could we start over. She rang me again at 9 and said no, it's really over. She rang again at 3 and asked to meet up the next day to talk about it and try to work it out and text me at midnight to say it really was all over!Since then she won’t answer my calls, or texts. I’ve written to her and emailed, but she just won’t respond.Why has she done this? Is there something she’s not telling me? I’m in pieces.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): You need to give Jenny some time to work out what she really wants.She is so confused she dont know what she wants, she probably cannot tell you because she probably dont even know herself.Give her some time to think about what she has said, let her mol over it, dont pressure her or get in her space.Send her one email and tell her how you feel about her, tell her you will give her space to figure out what she wants, and that you are there for her if she needs you.It sounds to me she has other issues that probably are no regard to you. Maybe she has big issues with her ex if thats the case, its only fair she sorts them issues out before she starts something with you.Dont jump in head first and get married etc. This relationship hasnt even taken off the ground yet, there is plenty of time for all those things, enjoy each others company, enjoy the dating and getting to know each other more before either of you make choices you both may regret.
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