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writes:Long story short - I've been seeing him for 10 months. Having sex for 5. We are not official by any means, and I know he is sleeping with other girls. Or at least, I think that he is. After getting into a couple big fights, I told him that if he wanted a booty call he had to treat me like one because he acts like I am his girlfriend by having me hang out with him and his friends all the time and everything. When we were having sex he refused to kiss me. I asked him what was wrong and he said "well you want to be treated like a booty call." and I was like "that wasn't what I meant." then he said that kissing was too personal and I was too attached. So I agreed with him and told him that it was over.About a week later, we ended up at the same New Years Eve party. He came up to me when he saw me and put his arms around me and I told him not to touch me. He started sending me mean text messages a week later and I just said "You are a peice of shit, but you're my peice of shit. You're fabulous the way that you are." and he never responded. 2 days later, he asked me to come over to his house. I said "that's not a good idea, I'm too attached, remember?" and he was like "Yeah, but the sex is good." and after a bit of bickering back and fourth he said "just come see me, we have some stuff to discuss." So I went over. We did not discuss much, and he would not have sex with me either. We did fool around (I gave him head and he diddled me lol) but we always have sex and he would not have sex with me no matter what I did. But he was all kissy and cuddly with me and begged me to stay the night. I just don't know what to make of this any more. One minute he is telling me kissing is too personal and I'm too attached, the next he won't sleep with me but he is kissing me and cuddling me and asking me to stay the night. I dont know what to do any more. What do you make of this situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo I'm fine with being a booty call, we do have great sex and I enjoy being with him. We have a lot of fun together (sexually and not) and I love all of his friends. We have no trust for each other (i say he is sleeping with other girls because of the things I hear--I have never actually seen him do anything even when we were fighting, but he has seen me make out with other guys, give other guys my phone number, etc.) but I'm actually not sleeping with anyone else, so its a hard call. I kinda live by the rule "Believe none of what you hear and only half of what you see." but again, you can only hear and see so much before you start believing it. A booty call relationship is probably all we could actually have due to the lack of trust. But then why does he treat me like a girlfriend when I'm with him? It makes me really sad lol.
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