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writes:I want to know how to prove to my wife that I do not cheat on her.I go out once in a while on Fridays and get way too drunk.I want to stop, but that is another issue. I love my wife and do not cheat on here, but when I come home late after drinking she automatically thinks that I have been sleeping with other women , even though I have not.No I am not perfect , but why would cheat and risk loosing everything?I am not sure what to do, I have asked her to seak counseling with me, but she has yet to go.R
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reader, kittin  +, writes (9 December 2008):
what kind of boyfriend are you. what do you think she'll put up with your lies forever. Wrong, she sees you like she sees every other guy... She pretends nothing is wrong until she just can't take the fact she had kids or married an ass bag like you. She is then entitled to the fact that your stupid and everything she does is and has been better and more providable then you. every guy goes throught a stage were we woman cannot explain the fact were about to have a baby your going to support either way. Which is a joke, your just a joke in the first place we just want to know how far you'll get without coming to the point where we'll will want to beat your pathetic asses cuase everthing is exactly wat we concluded from the beginning, &B THEN YOU'LL CONVINCE US WE'RE THE ONES YOU WANT. I'm gonna end that age old theory rite now. I act like a boy. TTYL on what's up bye. it's nothing but physical girls if you just keep it that way. you'll understand once you give any guy to the test. If you do you can do anything you DESIRE!
!yours truley Kittin Kawii
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reader, aM1nUts +, writes (4 March 2008):
How to prove her wrong?
Don't go out drinking Friday nights! Fortunately for me, that really has never been an issue, one beer and I'm toast...cheap date!
Seriously, instead of going out drinking take your wife out to dinner.
Good luck
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (2 March 2008):
 I think your wife feels as if your not interested in her, that other outside activities are more important...think about it. Even the possiblities of meeting other women are there...even if you are merely seeking a drink with the good ole boys for a night out. I'm glad you love your wife and I'm glad you see that this is and becoming a problem that is and will further damage your marriage. I would let your wife know that you love her with all your heart, and that you want to spend "that" time with her...as she is the one whom you should be spending your time with. You work all week, little time in the evenings for "quality" time, and here is your chance to change things around by spending more time with her. It's not so much "what" you do, it's doing it with her and letting her know and feel that she comes first and that you WANT to be with her.
In marriages today, communication and being with your partner seem to "not exist" anymore...and a gap falls in between which leaves one or both partner's with a wide opening for a new person to come in where you find them exciting....and then thus here comes the divorce. Mind you, this works both ways.
If you were to spend more time with your wife, I bet she would eventually have a different view on you going out, however, NOT that much. Once a week should be with HER...something that interests you both! As far as your drinking, only you know how serious it is, and if it is, you should think about not only what it is doing to your family, but what it's doing to you. She loves you, love her the same and more. She is your backbone for everything. When you have a good thing, I can only say, don't mess it up....your right, you could lose everything that is most precious and wonderful to you. This is where you have to decide...what's more worth it...her or your once a week getting drunk?
I do wish the best for both of you! Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2008): She thinks the worst because often men that do stay out way too late and drink crazy amounts are putting themselves in a state of mind or being that could lead to cheating happening. You only have to read how many people post things on this website saying "I was drunk and cheated on my girlfriend I regret it how can I get her back" and similar to know it happens. That is not to say you will automatically follow that... but see where she is coming from? You are not acting maturely, responsibly or actually my dear in a caring or loving way. If you know something upsets her why do you continue to do it? Surely best to curb your excess, come home earlier and show her you really do love her. All the counselling in the world ain't gonna change her disliking what you are doing. Are you hoping that suddenly a spot of counselling will allow you to do just what you want irrespective of whether it is acceptable or not. One off binges are one thing - we all do it - the office party once a year etc - but week after week? Come on. You need to look at your own behaviour before you criticise her surely.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (2 March 2008):
 Well, Let's see here.You go drinking on Fridays. Your wife thinks you are cheating because you are hammered. You suggested "couples counseling? Hmmmmm.....Here's a novel idea....How about having enough common sense to actually take your wife out to dinner or spend a great night at home with her on Friday night instead of DRINKING? If you go out and get WAY TOO DRUNK, that is not another issue pal...THAT IS THE ISSUE! How about an A.A meeting? Try it once!
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