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*leumonday
writes:Hope this is not the end.And although nothing has happened yet I would like a bit of insight.My boyfriend and I started originally as a long distance couple. He had ties to where I am..a few friends and his company's HQ were where I live. It began a good nearly three years now ago as a intense friendship and grew from there. Trips in time were made, we talked multiple times the day on the phone, texting, snail mail and so on.Thing is of late he has been getting sick, and he feel a lot of it is not feeling right about his job. It is not what he thinks and the pace of life here is not for him. He was not totally happy back at his "home(it is about 3.5 hours apart by car to give an idea)We had a few fights this past week and a semi break up followed by a lot of him saying he just doesn't know what is going on in his lifeBut that being said I will not bore you but we have been through so much together. I truly do still love him with all of my heart. He has said in recent times "I am all he really has" and such. He is a very shy hermit like personIf he does need or decides to leave do you think we are history? Or do we maybe just need him to get well, address all his anxiety issues and such and figure out his head? At the very least I don't want to think we disappear into oblivion. I know I am getting ahead of myself, nothing has happened?But what do you do, say and such at times like these? I am trying to be assuring an supportive without too much emotion. If I was to leave this time, again I couldn't for awhile. One I would want him to get situated and healthy. Two I have things going on. I just am confused and scared and could do with a little feedback that is not my usual friends. Also I apologize for any holes. Just question and I will answer.
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reader, bleumonday +, writes (23 October 2008):
bleumonday is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your help. Or input. I have to literally take it minute by minute. His moods are so over the place. I was so upset I slept on the floor crying the other night. I felt so distant and cold and turned away.
The thing is the moment I disappear he
He also has been battling(and I can put this out here since it is neutral ground) a problem with "huffing" as well as not properly taking his meds....I can't remember if I posted that before. He will insist on hearing things like that someone is at the door even though nobody is
I don't know if all of this accounts for his moods and why he he is one minute so cold and distant making me feel like I am no more than a friend, then I am back to being his soulmate then back to being a stranger? I don't even know what to do. I feel so lonely and empty myself.
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