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writes:Hiya, I'm 18 and I've been with a guy on and off since June last year. Until yesterday I had not seen him for six months and I'm no longer sure about my feelings for him. I've called a halt because of this, but I need to decide soon and my feelings are no clearer with seeing him. He lives only streets away from me but can't seem to see me all that much, and I feel dissatisfied as we have only kissed but not made out, and he has not taken me out on a date. I keep stringing him along and becoming unsure and pulling out only to take him back again. He says that we will do stuff and go out together, but I'm not sure if I believe him. Should I end it for good? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2007): You have been dating since last June, but then did not see him for six months. Not since last November, right?
You are dissatisfied with this - understandably so - and he does not appear to have that much interest in developing a relationship with you. If he did, even if he is busy he would FIND the time to see you and go out on dates with you!
He SAYS "we will do stuff and go out together" but that is really very vague. You could, if you really want, try suggesting something specific - going out to lunch or dinner on a particular day (give him the choice of a couple of days) and see what he says. If he follows through, that's good, but then see if HE invites YOU out the next time (and within say, a couple of weeks) to go somewhere. If he does, all well and good.
But if he does not, then I'd recommend you cut your losses and end it. There's nothing like enthusiasm by both people in starting a friendship, and you don't sound too enthusiastic yourself!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2007): arange to go out together like he says, go on a few dates that should help you know your feeling better but if you are going to be a couple he dose need to spend time with you, your still young enough to find someone else if it dosnt work out but know harm in giving it a go if you dont you may regret it, if he keeps backing out of going out i would move on, but for now give it a go you never know.
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